Keeping the Interviewer’s Attention

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach

I was talkingrepparttar other day to a physician who’s been in practice for 30 years. He’s in internal medicine, and so he “routinely” tells people they’re going to die, or that their condition is chronic and can only be managed; that they’ll have to live with pain, dysfunction, or limitations forrepparttar 125467 rest of their life. Over 40 years, considerrepparttar 125468 number of patients he’s had to tell this to. Something new, shocking and traumatic torepparttar 125469 patient … something he’s said hundreds of times.

The conversation came up because he was asking me how I could work onrepparttar 125470 telephone, as coaches usually do. He said, “I need to have them in front of me, to see they eyes, to see how they’re responding.” His ability to empathize and also stay focused is what makes himrepparttar 125471 excellent and caring physician he is. (Coaches learn to do this via telephone through experience.)

However, not all communicators master this ability. Communication takes discipline. It takes empathy, so you can understandrepparttar 125472 positionrepparttar 125473 other person is in. It takes self-discipline, because you have to attend to a lot of things that are going on. THE INTERVIEW

How does this apply to your interview for a job? You need to understandrepparttar 125474 positionrepparttar 125475 interview is in. You need to focus on them, not you.

The person has likely been doingrepparttar 125476 job for some time. It’s repetitious. Yes,repparttar 125477 people are different (as inrepparttar 125478 case ofrepparttar 125479 physician), butrepparttar 125480 same questions,repparttar 125481 same answers,repparttar 125482 same mindset,repparttar 125483 same emotions. The interviewer is just as much in his own world as you are in yours. His job may have become routine. He may even be approaching burn out.


Psychology tells us we tune out what’s familiar. We quit paying attention to it. For instance, people who live nearrepparttar 125484 elevated train tracks in Chicago suburbs no longer hearrepparttar 125485 trains coming every hour. No matter how professionalrepparttar 125486 person is, tune-out can still happen. Not all people haverepparttar 125487 level of self-discipline asrepparttar 125488 physician we talked about.

The interviewer may or may not be able to achieve an active listening state. You need to take responsibility for making this happen.


Every interview starts out with intensity. Everyone’s paying attention, psyched up, ready to go. Then what happens as you start to answerrepparttar 125489 first question? Intensity can’t be maintained; it’s physics. In as short as 10 seconds, there’s a change, like lettingrepparttar 125490 air out ofrepparttar 125491 bag. After 60 seconds, we lose focus, and attention may go down as much as 50%. The interviewer’s mind will start to wander … unless you do something about it.

How do you know you’ve lostrepparttar 125492 interviewer? Nonverbal cues: eyes glaze over, drumming with a pencil onrepparttar 125493 table, looking aroundrepparttar 125494 room, failing to even producerepparttar 125495 obligatory “uh huhs” and “I sees”. How do you getrepparttar 125496 interview back? You have to do a dance. You have to interject something they aren’t expecting, something new that will recapture their attention. One way to do this is to ask questions. For instance:

·Was this what you were after? ·Can you hear me? That Xerox is kind of distracting. ·Could you repeat that last point? ·Is this what you had in mind? ·Would you rather hear about XXX, or YYY?

The Tuareg Cross of Agadez

Written by Casonia Smith-King

The Tuareg are a nomadic tribe which live in and aboutrepparttar Sahara Desert region of Africa. They are reknowned Silversmiths who also make quality one of a kind leather goods.

Traditionally,repparttar 125466 Tuareg craft in Silver because it is believed to have protective qualities. The Silver used traditionally is not Sterling Silver as we are accustomed to inrepparttar 125467 Western world, but a Nickel Silver found inrepparttar 125468 region whererepparttar 125469 tribe lives.

There are different cross designs representing villages throughout Niger, Africa. It is believedrepparttar 125470 crosses relate back to ancient times beforerepparttar 125471 Tuareg were influenced by Islam; a time when Christianity heavily influencedrepparttar 125472 people ofrepparttar 125473 region. Originally, when a male child reached puberty,repparttar 125474 crosses were passed down from father to son to showrepparttar 125475 village he was from. It is said thatrepparttar 125476 father would say torepparttar 125477 son: "My son, I give yourepparttar 125478 four corners ofrepparttar 125479 world, because one cannot know where one will die".

Today,repparttar 125480 crosses are used as adornment by men and women.

You can buyrepparttar 125481 Tuareg Cross of Agadez or other African tribal jewelry at .

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