KABBALAH OF LOVE II: The Secret Power of Ego

Written by Shifra Hendrie


Do you long for love?

Most of us do. The intimate touch of another soul isrepparttar most powerful antidote forrepparttar 147612 all-too-human experience of aloneness. It may berepparttar 147613 most compelling and pleasurable experience there is.

So why do we spend so much of our time and energy avoiding intimacy by defending ourselves, being angry, critical, closed and judgmental – in short, blockingrepparttar 147614 experience that we most deeply want?


The answer is that we are wired to constantly reinforce our limited ego-based identity, our sense of who we are.

This ego-based identity plays a very important role in human life, but it does not haverepparttar 147615 power to love. Ego is all aboutrepparttar 147616 self. It can and does experience need, and need is often easy to mistake for love. And it can certainly love how another person makes it feel.

But these things aren’t true love. True love and intimacy doesn’t come fromrepparttar 147617 ego. In order to experiencerepparttar 147618 power of true love you have to get in touch with a different part of yourself –repparttar 147619 part that lies beyond ego.


This process is easier when you understandrepparttar 147620 true nature of your ego-based identity: It doesn’t really exist.

Although it functions as if it’srepparttar 147621 most real thing about you, in actual fact your ‘identity’ is only a perspective. It’s kept alive solely throughrepparttar 147622 stories you tell yourself about life, others and yourself.

You could literally say that your ego is all talk – an incessant monologue whose sole purpose is to reinforce your sense of self – who you are and who you aren’t.

Most ofrepparttar 147623 time it goes something like this: “I’m better than he is, uglier than she is, smarter than him, richer than her, worse than I should be. I can do this, I could never do this, I shouldn’t have done that, they shouldn’t be that way. Life is good, life is hard, he’s right, she’s wrong, I’m great, I’m no good, it’s my fault, it’s their fault…” and on, and on, and on...

Just as a whale identifies its location through bouncing sound waves off nearby objects, your ego pinpoints its own presence – defines itself - by relating torepparttar 147624 people, ideas, and objects around it.

This process is continuous. Your identity must be continuously reinforced or you will quite literally loserepparttar 147625 sense of who you are.

That’s why it can be so very threatening to have something or somebody confronting your ego – your beliefs about yourself, others orrepparttar 147626 world. Sincerepparttar 147627 ego is actually made out of these beliefs, perspectives and opinions, and you identifyrepparttar 147628 ego as ‘you’, when your beliefs are threatened it can feel just like a threat to your very survival.

Quite simply,repparttar 147629 more you get to be ‘right’ about things,repparttar 147630 more real and solid you feel, andrepparttar 147631 more you have to be ‘wrong’,repparttar 147632 more threatened and diminished.


This would be really bad news if not forrepparttar 147633 fact that there is another part of you. This part – your core essence, your authentic self – has an intrinsic reality. Unlike your ego-based identity, its existence is not dependent upon outside circumstances or stories. And unlike your ego, it’s not threatened by someone else’s success, or enhanced by their failure. In fact,repparttar 147634 opposite is true.

You could visualize your ego/identity as likerepparttar 147635 surface ofrepparttar 147636 ocean; changeable, vulnerable, reflectingrepparttar 147637 sun, sky, and clouds, affected by every wind. Your core isrepparttar 147638 vast, calm, still, deep water beneath. Those deep mysterious waters teem with every kind of life and potential, but this life is invisible fromrepparttar 147639 surface.

All transformation involves a process of seeing beneathrepparttar 147640 changeable surface and connecting withrepparttar 147641 vast deep life-giving waters beneath. This process usually involves a level of discomfort as your identity is shaken out of its placid solid form and made to expand and reflect a deeper level of reality.

But it’s worth it.


Last year I had a very typical experience from which I learned an uncommon lesson.

I was upstairs in my bedroom. My husband was late getting home and had failed to call me to let me know. I wasn’t really worried about him, but I still began to get more and more agitated byrepparttar 147642 fact that he hadn’t come home when he said he would.

The later he become,repparttar 147643 angrier I grew. Byrepparttar 147644 time I finally heardrepparttar 147645 door downstairs I was in a fury. (I realize that this doesn’t show me in a particularly positive light – butrepparttar 147646 truth is, that’s exactly what happened.)

The Kabbalah of Creation

Written by Shifra Hendrie

”I want to know how God created this world. I am not interested in this or that phenomenon, inrepparttar spectrum of this or that element. I want to know His thoughts;repparttar 147611 rest are details”. – Albert Einstein

“…I would ask, ‘Why wasrepparttar 147612 universe created?’ Because then I would knowrepparttar 147613 meaning of my own life.” -- Albert Einstein

G-d is infinite and ungraspable. By definition,repparttar 147614 more we understand,repparttar 147615 more there is to understand.

But to know how G-d created this world, His intent and purpose, not only is possible, but part of our mission on this earth.

Kabbalah isrepparttar 147616 key.

Some traditions describe our world as a school; a place where souls come and go in order to learn important lessons. But, even though incarnation in a physical body isrepparttar 147617 vehicle through whichrepparttar 147618 soul expresses itself and its potential, this is far fromrepparttar 147619 whole story.

Life in a body does more than usherrepparttar 147620 soul through a series of developmental stages. The ultimate aim of life in a body is to provide us withrepparttar 147621 chance to become intimate with G-d, to ‘know His thoughts’.

Kabbalah explains that there are many levels of spiritual beings, such as angels, and that all of these are powerfully aware of their spiritual source. In fact, this experience isrepparttar 147622 most important feature of their existence. It defines who and what they are. To these beings,repparttar 147623 experience of G-d is all encompassing. They relate to Him like a humble and insignificant servant relates to a great and mighty king. The servant’s entire life is devoted torepparttar 147624 king;repparttar 147625 king is his whole reality. Butrepparttar 147626 two remain separated by an enormous, unbridgeable chasm. The servant will serverepparttar 147627 king faithfully, but he will never be able to relate to him.

This is not true for us.

Paradoxically, it is precisely through our limiting experience as souls in physical bodies that we can come to know G-d. We will know Him not only from a distance, as servants, but up close and personal. Passionately. Intimately.

Let’s look at why.

G-d is ‘above it all’, independent of, all circumstances; Creator and source. He isrepparttar 147628 only reality. Everything else that exists is only a highly limited expression of Him. The beings that inhabitrepparttar 147629 many spiritual worlds all take vast pleasure in His presence, praise and serve Him. But beyond that they are passive recipients. Like rays of sunlight torepparttar 147630 sun, they experience and expressrepparttar 147631 light of their source, but no more than that.

Physical beings are different. By definition, we physical beings, in our untransformed state, cannot sense our spiritual source. Instead of experiencing G-d asrepparttar 147632 center of our existence, asrepparttar 147633 sun, and ourselves as a ray of sunlight, we feel likerepparttar 147634 center. We ourselves, and our own perspective, are more real to us than anything else.

It is our nature to feel sourceless, separate, alone, and centered in our own unique and limited experience. Despiterepparttar 147635 fact that G-d isrepparttar 147636 only reality, our experience contradicts this fact. Instead, we inevitably experience ourselves, our circumstances and our perspective as real and G-d as a concept.

This is as far as you can get fromrepparttar 147637 truth.

In addition, this essential isolation and self-centeredness isrepparttar 147638 root cause of most ofrepparttar 147639 conflict and suffering that human beings experience. We are cut off fromrepparttar 147640 larger picture. We are disconnected from each other. We feel insubstantial and vulnerable. We compete for resources, like love, attention, success, recognition and money. Much ofrepparttar 147641 time we experience life asrepparttar 147642 struggle for physical and emotional survival.

For all of these reasons, Kabbalah calls this physical world “the lowest world”.

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