Now, how do you recognize love in your life? Do you have a well-defined way of recognizing love coming to you? Is it "it has to look, sound, feel like this or it isn't love"? Or, are you open to seeing, hearing and feeling love in many forms? You can miss a lot of love in your life if you have a narrow, restricting perception of which form is acceptable to you.

First if all, do your kids actually need everything they own? Are you still hoarding clothes and shoes they have grown out of or toys that are now far to young for them to play with? Be ruthless - pass them onto someone else, dump them at charity shop or throw them out. It is not use trying to tidy around things which have outgrown their usefulness.

If any of your kids’ rooms are particularly bad (drawers full of small pieces of rubbish, sweet wrappers, broken Lego, pens without tops etc, try ‘mining’ technique. Take draw (crate, box or bag) and tip everything out onto some large sheets of newspaper. Then ‘mine’ all useful items and put them in a container. Everything that is left stays on newspaper. This is then wrapped up and put straight into bin.

Is there usually dirty washing in your kid’s rooms? Are they loath to use wash bin to put their soiled clothing in? If so, why not have a different coloured laundry bin for each child, or put a logo of their favourite character or pastime on front. This might encourage them to place their dirty clothes where they belong.

Attach pegs or hooks behind each child’s door. This is where they can hang their school uniform for next day as I think that trying to get them to fold their uniforms neatly and place them in a drawer till next day would be a triumph of hope over experience! This way, when they come home at night, when they change they can simply place all items on hooks and forget about them till next morning.