Just Say “No”

Written by Dr. Donald E. Wetmore

I used to put everyone else’s requests and needs first and if there was any time left over atrepparttar end ofrepparttar 101925 day for what I needed and wanted to do, that was acceptable. That is until I began to realize that if you and I are going to be effective time managers, we have to stay away from allocating our time solely onrepparttar 101926 basis of those who demand it. Instead, if you and I are going to be effective time managers, we have to allocate our time onrepparttar 101927 basis of those who deserve it.

I don’t mean this in any negative or arrogant way. It’s just you have limits torepparttar 101928 amount of time you have to spend and so one ofrepparttar 101929 most powerful words in your Time Management vocabulary isrepparttar 101930 word, “no”. Almost everyone you encounter will think they have a better idea about how you should be spending your time. It doesn’t make others bad. It’s justrepparttar 101931 wayrepparttar 101932 world works. If there is a void in your Time Management life, someone, or many for that matter, will jump in to fill that spot. The problem is that they do not haverepparttar 101933 full understanding of where you are taking your life and if you keep saying “yes”, they will continue to take up your time, possibly keeping you from accomplishing what you really want to do.

“No” is sometimes difficult to say because you have been taught differently. You have been taught to say, “yes”, to please, to serve, and to accommodate. There is nothing wrong with saying “yes” most ofrepparttar 101934 time, but occasionally there is a line you choose not to cross, when saying “yes” is really notrepparttar 101935 best use of your time to get you to where you need and want to be.

If you had unlimited amounts of time, you could “yes” allrepparttar 101936 time to everyone. But you don’t. You have 24 hours each day, 7 days a week for a total of 168 hours. And you get to spend that time only once, so you have to spend it wisely.

I have listed seventeen ways here to say “no”. Don’t let me putrepparttar 101937 words in your mouth. Takerepparttar 101938 ones you like, change them around and you userepparttar 101939 words that are comfortable for you. The point is, if you are ever in a position when you can never say “no”, then you are always saying “yes”, and likerepparttar 101940 song says, “If you don’t stand for something, you will fall for everything”.

Try these:

“I’m sorry. That’s not a priority for me right now.”

“I can’t help you on this now, but I can get to it next week. Would that be okay?”

Ya Gotta Ask!

Written by Dave Balch

The e-mail came just yesterday. A friend had a friend that had been trying for 20 years (that's not a typo: TWENTY years!) to get Permanent Residency status but, due to INS paperwork snafus and red tape, had been frustrated in his efforts. The issue is not whether he qualifies;repparttar issue isrepparttar 101924 paperwork.

Can you imagine being that frustrated for that long? Neither could my friend, so she sent an email to everyone in her address book asking if anyone knew anyone that could help. It sounds pretty unlikely, doesn't it? You'd think there would be a better chance of winningrepparttar 101925 lottery than fixing a government paperwork problem with an e-mail shot out intorepparttar 101926 universe! Why bother even asking?

Guess what? A member of my motorcycle club works forrepparttar 101927 INS, inrepparttar 101928 same office whererepparttar 101929 problem has been! What arerepparttar 101930 odds??

There is a very important lesson in all of this, and here it is: if you want something, no matter how unlikely it may seem, ya gotta ask! My friend could have easily thought that it was ridiculous to send out such a message because ofrepparttar 101931 overwhelming odds against getting results. But she did it anyway. Ya gotta ask!

How does this affect your business? There are a million ways; here are just a few.

For one thing, it reminds us to ask forrepparttar 101932 order,repparttar 101933 single most common reason that sales are lost; we don't ask them to buy from us! Ya gotta ask! Do you know of any opportunities to partner with someone but haven't asked because "they wouldn't be interested"? Ya gotta ask! Have you spotted that perfect new salesperson but haven't approached them because they seem happy in their current job? Ya gotta ask!

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