I used to put everyone else’s requests and needs first and if there was any time left over at end of day for what I needed and wanted to do, that was acceptable. That is until I began to realize that if you and I are going to be effective time managers, we have to stay away from allocating our time solely on basis of those who demand it. Instead, if you and I are going to be effective time managers, we have to allocate our time on basis of those who deserve it.
I don’t mean this in any negative or arrogant way. It’s just you have limits to amount of time you have to spend and so one of most powerful words in your Time Management vocabulary is word, “no”. Almost everyone you encounter will think they have a better idea about how you should be spending your time. It doesn’t make others bad. It’s just way world works. If there is a void in your Time Management life, someone, or many for that matter, will jump in to fill that spot. The problem is that they do not have full understanding of where you are taking your life and if you keep saying “yes”, they will continue to take up your time, possibly keeping you from accomplishing what you really want to do.
“No” is sometimes difficult to say because you have been taught differently. You have been taught to say, “yes”, to please, to serve, and to accommodate. There is nothing wrong with saying “yes” most of time, but occasionally there is a line you choose not to cross, when saying “yes” is really not best use of your time to get you to where you need and want to be.
If you had unlimited amounts of time, you could “yes” all time to everyone. But you don’t. You have 24 hours each day, 7 days a week for a total of 168 hours. And you get to spend that time only once, so you have to spend it wisely.
I have listed seventeen ways here to say “no”. Don’t let me put words in your mouth. Take ones you like, change them around and you use words that are comfortable for you. The point is, if you are ever in a position when you can never say “no”, then you are always saying “yes”, and like song says, “If you don’t stand for something, you will fall for everything”.
“I’m sorry. That’s not a priority for me right now.”
“I can’t help you on this now, but I can get to it next week. Would that be okay?”