Journaling: Why, When and How

Written by Rinatta Paries

Question for singles: --------------------- What do you do with your occasional feelings of loneliness, frustration with dating, perhaps frustration with yourself and/orrepparttar opposite sex? Do these feelings and thoughts run around and around in your head, interfering with your ability to think clearly, causing more frustration? Read below to learn how to get these thoughts and feelings out so you can have a more peaceful, more enjoyable life.

Question for people in relationships: ------------------------------------- What do you do when you are frustrated with your partner, or want to have a serious conversation with him or her? Do you turnrepparttar 101969 words over and over in your head? Do you try to talk to your partner while full of intense feelings and haverepparttar 101970 conversation turn into an argument? Read below to learn how to be clear and calm when you talk to your partner.

Journaling is different than keeping a diary, as you may have done as a child. It is not writing about your activities to create a daily or a weekly record. It is not writing forrepparttar 101971 sake of just writing your thoughts. It is writing that transforms.

Journaling may seem overly simplistic. So much so that many of you -- while reading this article and thinking it's a good idea -- will actually never pick uprepparttar 101972 pen and write, simply because you think it couldn't possibly do any good.

However, when done right, journaling allows you to freely express your feelings and thoughts and gives you a much needed, safe outlet. And believe it or not, when you have an outlet, feelings and circumstances becomes much easier to deal with and solutions emerge where once there were none.

Here is how to have an effective, powerful journaling session:

1. Pick up your journal, which can be a notebook, a sheet of paper, or a journal - anything will work.

2. Set aside a bit of time when you will not be disturbed and where you are granted privacy. I have known people who journal in their car or inrepparttar 101973 bathroom. Be creative.

3. Decide on a topic - how you feel about being single, how you feel today in general, how you feel about a situation in your relationship, what you want to say to a certain someone, etc.

Here are some additional tips to help you choose a topic:

** Describe an issue or a problem in great detail. Then write about whererepparttar 101974 issue comes from, what you think and feel about it, what your life is like because of it and how your life would be different if it were solved.

** Dialogue with yourself to resolverepparttar 101975 issue. Write down all of your thoughts. Then write down all of your feelings, describing both in great detail.

** Pretendrepparttar 101976 person or people you need to communicate with are in front of you. Write down everything you want to say to them, including your thoughts, feelings, rationale, etc.

Compassion, Part 1

Written by Rinatta Paries

"Before we can feel compassion for anyone else, we must learn to feel compassion for ourselves." ~Unknown

Webster's Dictionary defines compassion asrepparttar sympathetic consciousness of other's distress. Butrepparttar 101968 first step toward having compassion for others is having compassion for yourself. It isrepparttar 101969 first step toward creating thriving relationships. It isrepparttar 101970 first step toward moving forward and growing your life.

This is because we can never truly give to another if we are empty, if we are tapped out, unnourished. Sure, we can push ourselves to give even then. Butrepparttar 101971 giving won't be genuine. Atrepparttar 101972 same time, giving to others while you are empty makes you feel resentful. This is why it is extremely important to always care for yourself first.

The last time you were sick, did you take care of yourselfrepparttar 101973 way you would a sick child? Did you fix your favorite meal, sleep for hours on end, and take a day or two off from work? Or did you instead push yourself throughrepparttar 101974 discomfort and low energy, allrepparttar 101975 time telling yourself you can't affordrepparttar 101976 time to be sick?

The last time you were sad, did you hug yourself, take a good long time to journal, and call a friend and pour your heart out? Or did you instead continue with your routine, pushing yourself even harder, telling yourself to get over it?

The last time you failed at something, did you look at all you accomplished even inrepparttar 101977 failure, acknowledge your sadness, and come up with a gentle, practical way to do better next time? Or did you instead berate yourself endlessly, telling yourself what you should have done differently and better, resolving to succeed through sheer willpower?

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