It's Not Your Fault You're OverweightWritten by Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.
If you are overweight, experience overwhelming cravings or puzzling fluctuations in weight, and dieting has been to no avail, then overeating or deep seated psychological problems may not be culprit of your problem. You may have undiagnosed allergies or sensitivities to foods or chemicals that you may not be aware of. Perfume, hair spray, fabric softener, car exhaust, pesticides, smog, wheat, sugar, smell of coffee, a date with a smoker or many other foods or chemicals can all be triggers for cravings, binges and water retention, which can result in weight gain. There are 4 different ways that allergens can stimulate weight gain. 1. Addiction Many people are overweight because they are actually addicted to certain foods. It’s usually one of your favorite foods and one that you eat quite frequently. When eaten it supplies you with a fix, an instant lift and relieves your allergic symptoms temporarily 2.Cravings Any irritants that cause allergies can also cause intense hunger pangs. A craving can be for a specific food like as ice cream or for a general family such as pasta. 3.The Appestat Switch-Off Scientists have found that certain substances can go directly to brain and shut off appestat, or appetite control center. Normally it should tell you that you are full and it is time to stop eating, but if it does not shut off you never feel full and thus want to continue eating. This adverse reaction can be caused by anything –hugging a friend who is wearing perfume, dryer exhaust from your neighbor, or eating a wheat cookie. If you never feel full or hungry after a meal, your appestat may not be functioning properly. Once you can identify what substances are problematic for you can eliminate them and reactivate your hunger control center. 4. Edema The most common form of allergic obesity is fluid retention. If you notice that you are heavier day after you eat a particular food, your body is probably responding to an allergy. Pay close attention to your eating habits, air you breath and chemicals and fragrances that you use, looking for possible connections between changes in your weight and kinds of food you eat (instead of being focused on how much you eat) also taking note of when cravings, uncontrollable hunger and binges occur. Pay close attention to any changes you may have in mood or thought such as: anger, depression, crying, irritability, and inability to concentrate and think clearly. These same substances that cause weight gain and cravings can also create symptoms that appear to be psychological, but are really a result of a sensitivity to food or chemical.
| | Coping with the Loss Caused by Chronic IllnessWritten by Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.
Living with a chronic illness has a profound impact on one’s life and creates a lot of grief in response to losses it imposes on our lives. There are wide arrays of potential life interruptions and psychological changes one will go through when dealing with their illness. Our illness is erratic and unpredictable and requires constant readjusting. We are likely to endure multiple losses that may include loss of control and personal power, which is an important contributor to self-esteem, as well as loss of independence, loss of identity, loss of financial status and loss of one’s customary lifestyle. In addition to these we may also have to face possible relinquishing of our hopes and dreams and face fear of more on going losses. Changing roles in family, work and social situations that result from a person’s illness also can create additional adjustment problems for everyone involved. Family members and partners are likely to be experiencing same feelings as we are as well as their own feelings as to how illness is impacting their life. If these issues are not worked out, then relationships may all apart and leave us with another loss. Perhaps most difficult of these transitions is loss of identity one held before becoming sick. Often, there is a complete restructuring of way one defines oneself and ways in which one interacts with world. Sometimes it is difficult to feel good about oneself as our illness or disability is incorporated into a new self-image. The work of rebuilding one’s life and identity can be further complicated by loss of spouses or partners or other supportive relationships that sometimes follow onset of serious illness. And, as all persons who suffer with an invisible illness know, lack of validation and support for our illness creates further grief and frustration. At a time when we most need compassion, love, understanding, sympathy and support we may be met with criticism, disbelief, and anger. It is no wonder that many people facing these multiple losses and grief that naturally ensues find themselves experiencing high levels of anger, fear, helplessness, hopelessness, resentment, depression and damaged self-esteem. Coping with all these issues can be very overwhelming. There are several things we can do to help get though these difficulties and to cope better: -Establish a good relationship with a supportive health care provider. -Allow yourself to feel and express your feelings. -Allow yourself to grieve for what you have lost. -Find support such as a support group, friends, counselor, etc. -Recognize limits in your life and set reasonable goals. Be realistic about what to expect from yourself. -Learn to adapt, make substitutions and modifications so that you can still participate in fulfilling life activities. Do something fun! -Keep communication open with partners, friends and family members so that feelings and resentments don’t build up and so everyone’s needs can be addressed and met in best way possible. -Learn to value your own company, become your own best friend and find your self worth based on inner strengths rather than on what you do. -Take care of your body by following a healthy diet, mild exercise, and appropriate rest. Listen to your body. It will tell you what it needs. Pamper and nurture yourself with things that are enjoyable for you. -Educate yourself as much as possible about your condition and take an active role in your treatment. This will help regain a sense of control and improve your self-esteem. -Let go of expectations of others and society. Understand that societies definition of what’s “normal” no longer applies. Do what you need to do for yourself. -Make peace with your illness. Try to think of your illness and your pain as your companion instead of your enemy. Listen to wisdom and lessons it may carry for you. Learn to flow with and accept your illness rather than resisting it.
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