“If you want fear on purpose, get a future.” Byron Katie

Have you ever noticed what you spend hours or days, or your lifetime for that matter, worrying about is never as bad when it comes to pass, as you imagined it would be?

I come from a long line of worriers. Maybe it’s genetic, maybe its cultural, who knows. I consider myself an expert on matter. I remember being a little girl and worrying about everything, what if I got sick, what if nobody wanted to play with me, what if I died!

I managed to carry art form of worrying into my adult life often projecting myself into situations, wondering “what if?” and having to dealing with stress and anxiety of what I imagined was going to happen.

A few years ago I had a powerful experience that turned this all around.

I took myself on a pilgrimage to Hawaii. I was at a pivotal time in my personal growth and I was cultivating a deeper relationship with myself. I left my husband and family for two weeks and set off by myself to find Helaine.

I was registered to take a five-day workshop studying interspecies communication swimming with wild dolphins in beautiful waters off of Big Island. For rest of trip I would be on my own, with no plans exploring magical island of Hawaii.

On one of workshop days we were all to swim across Kealakekua Bay, which is about a mile wide. The bay is a famous dolphin hang out. The prospect of meeting up with a pod of dolphins was pretty exciting, yet I was a bit worried if I had stamina to swim a mile. What if I got tired, what if I get left behind group. What if I drowned?

About a quarter of way into swim I did get tired; and even though Hawaiian waters are warm I was getting cold. I knew there was no way I could make it across bay so I decided I had better swim back to shore.

Well, As Luck Would Have It!

Have you ever heard saying, "it's all in your perspective"? Perspective! Interesting word. It means relative importance of an object in distance. Isn't that way it is with everything we pursue? How bad do we want it? How important is it?

Depending on importance of your goals, you might not want to leave them to luck. Believing "only" in luck syndrome, is a quick way to develop that "life sucks and then you die" perspective. Find someone with a "life sucks" perspective and you will find someone who thinks that if they didn't have bad luck they would have no luck at all.

A Thimble Full Of Something!

Now, I know some things just fall in our laps! But, not always powerful, dramatic ones, and if you do get one of those huge blessings in one fell swoop, don't forget to be thankful. Or, it might not happen anymore.

In fact, your perspective towards small and insignificant accomplishments in your life could help to supercharge your ability to attain more of bigger ones. And, isn't that where rub is? Isn't that what we are really yearning for? Isn't that what causes our emotions to be up and down like a toilet seat at a mixed party?

We strive, we push, we burn midnight oil, and we put all our emotions behind big issues and let small ones fall by wayside. And, then it seems life comes on scene and reminds us of some small gesture, maybe a free lunch someone treated us to, or, someone backed his car up and let you have parking space at Wal-Mart.

Every Cloud Has A Silver Lining!

We take those little freebies like that and go on to never give them another thought. You see, life has a tendency to want us to be grateful for everything, good and bad that happens, not just dramatic ones. And, Life loves to remind us of little ones. On other side, I'm not saying you should be thankful "for" bad things that happen, but to be thankful "in" bad things that happen.

For example: You just got passed up for a promotion or raise; you mean I should be thankful for that? Not thankful for it happening, but be thankful in predicament. You can't change it, you can't wish it was different, you've got short end of stick and that is that! It's a fact. So, here's a tip.