If it's a long-term relationship you want, you absolutely must be willing to make a few sacrifices to invest in your happy future with
woman of your dreams. You simply cannot continue to live happy-go-lucky life of single guy and expect to make your partnership with a woman succeed. It just doesn't work that way.Solid relationships take hard work, not just in beginning, but throughout your entire life together. Building a solid, long-term relationship also means making a few sacrifices along way. Ask yourself what is most important to you. If your relationship with your lady is most important thing...then you may have to give up certain other aspects of your life to maintain that relationship and keep it on solid ground.
If you've been "going out with guys" for a few beers after work on Friday evenings and have no real intention of giving up your night out...I'll be quite frank with you. It's going to take a very, very special woman who will put up with that for long. She may tell you in beginning she doesn't mind, and if you are home at a reasonable hour, you might just be able to pull it off and keep her happy as well. But don't count on it.
It may all be very innocent in your mind and you can protest profusely, "But I'm just out with guys. It's not like I'm being unfaithful to her or anything." But you are, at least in her mind...in subtle ways male brain usually cannot understand.
We all know that one beer sometimes leads to another and to another and to another. If you can limit yourself and return home to your lady early in evening, perhaps you will never have any problems with her over your "night out with guys" ritual.
But sooner or later, time may come when, before you know it, it's midnight and your lady has been home alone all night long. How long would you stay at home alone every Friday night waiting on her if she was one out with her friends? Not for long, I'll bet. So ask yourself, is it really fair of you to expect her to sit at home alone while you're out on town without her? Think about that and be honest with yourself. What would you be thinking and feeling if tables were turned? More importantly, what would you do about it?
What do guys do when they're out together? Talk about sports? Maybe. But they look at girls too, right? You may not even talk to another woman while you're out with your male friends. You may not even come within ten feet of another woman, but you're still looking, right? Of course you are. What man doesn't look? And all women know this.
There is no harm in "just looking". But if you're checking girls out, you can bet there are girls who are checking you out as well. It's name of game. Sooner or later, after so much alcohol has been consumed, you'll let your guard down. Someone may strike up a conversation. It may not even be you. It may be one of those girls who's been checking you out or a girl who sees you in club at same time every week.
Women know how to play a man. Men don't always let their brain do thinking, especially after a few drinks and a clever woman knows this. Suddenly, your girl at home isn't even in your thoughts anymore. You're thinking only of hot little number standing next to you in a bar and smells, oh, so good and is smiling up at you so sweetly. Next thing you know, she's pulling you out on dance floor or snuggling up to you. Can you see where all this may be leading?
