Is your career classified 3F?

Written by Cathy Goodwin, Ph.D.

Whenrepparttar United States had a military draft, men with "4F" status were banned from military service. Some cherishedrepparttar 131379 designation while others felt cheated out ofrepparttar 131380 experience.

If you're seeking career freedom, you may feel blocked byrepparttar 131381 3F's: Fear, Focus and Finances -- and you can change your 3F status torepparttar 131382 fourth F, "Forward!"

Fear comes from giving up a cherished identity. Once you move to a new career, you have to find a new way to say, "I am" with pride and excitement. What will your former colleagues say? How will your family greetrepparttar 131383 new you? And how do you feel about trading in your "senior seasoned" identity forrepparttar 131384 role of a stumbling beginner? The risk is real. After starting a business or spending a few years in graduate school, you are no longerrepparttar 131385 same person. Your old career neighborhood changes, too. Returning home may no longer be an option. You overcome this block by learning to recognize fear as a powerful ally rather than a threat. Work with and throughrepparttar 131386 fear.

Focus requires you to choose a meaningful goal and then to avoidrepparttar 131387 siren call of your previous life. If you have wisely chosen to remain in a job while exploring your options, you must resist getting caught up inrepparttar 131388 politics and reward system of a world where you are no longer a citizen. You may need to findrepparttar 131389 inner resources to keep going, while sustainingrepparttar 131390 motivation and excitement of your new world.

You Deserve a Love Like This

Written by Rinatta Paries

I once participated in a small workshop on public speaking. Each of us was presented withrepparttar goal of deeply connecting with all eight attendees. We were to speak fromrepparttar 131367 heart on a specific topic, andrepparttar 131368 audience was to connect back withrepparttar 131369 speaker. And whilerepparttar 131370 workshop was indeed interesting, what really grabbed my attention was a married couple who also participated in it. These two demonstratedrepparttar 131371 type of love connection we all deserve.

Bothrepparttar 131372 husband and wife made a definite connection with everyone inrepparttar 131373 room when it was their individual turn to speak. Asrepparttar 131374 husband began his speech, he looked at his wife inrepparttar 131375 audience and magic happened. His eyes darkened. They filled with a mixture of profound love, passion and gratitude for her. He breathed deeper. He stood straighter. He became even more present.

It was as thoughrepparttar 131376 admiration and love he saw in his wife's eyes fed himrepparttar 131377 strength and permission to be more present; as if she saw him and accepted him so completely that acceptance from everyone else was a given.

When it was his wife's turn to speak,repparttar 131378 same thing happened between them. This time, he fed her with acceptance and delight in her. And she in turn, havingrepparttar 131379 permission, could be fully herself in front of a group of strangers.

These two were ordinary people, both young, perhaps in their early 30's. She is a stay-at-home mom with a 2-year-old. He is a working professional. Butrepparttar 131380 love, connection and acceptance between them is nothing ordinary.

What they have is true love. Notrepparttar 131381 passion that ignites at first sight and hurls two people intorepparttar 131382 drama of a shaky relationship. Notrepparttar 131383 comfort of some couples, having been together for many years, no longer seeing or caring much about each other. Notrepparttar 131384 thrill of two people having an affair behind their partners' backs. This couple is truly in love.

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