Is it Lust or Love?

Written by Deborah Willis

Far too many people, both men and women alike, confuse lust for love. Physical attraction alone will not withstandrepparttar test of time in relationships. Physical attraction is an important factor but must never berepparttar 149808 only factor you rely upon when choosing a mate. Many makerepparttar 149809 mistake of confusing lust and love and end up broken-hearted whenrepparttar 149810 relationship doesn't last.

Perhaps you're wildly attracted to someone and thoughts of that person dominate your mind a good portion ofrepparttar 149811 day and night. Perhaps you can't wait untilrepparttar 149812 next timerepparttar 149813 two of you will be together again. When you are together you can't keep your hands off one another and when you're apart, you fantasize aboutrepparttar 149814 next time you can see one another. True love and lust are easily confused because they are so much alike.

As a rule of thumb, if you share few other interests and have nothing in common other than an overwhelming physical desire for one may be lust. If you have nothing of real value to say to one another and have difficulty relating to one another outsiderepparttar 149815 sexual may be lust. If you don't particularly enjoy one another's company unless you're having may be lust.

Onrepparttar 149816 other hand, if your relationship is based on factors other than physical attraction and sex is not necessarilyrepparttar 149817 number one may be love. Most long-term relationships are built on a strong friendship which turns into love over time. Having sex is notrepparttar 149818 driving force behindrepparttar 149819 relationship, but is a nice sideline to it.

There really is such a thing as "love at first sight". It happens to many people andrepparttar 149820 relationship may last forrepparttar 149821 rest of their lives. A budding relationship based on lust feels muchrepparttar 149822 same as one which is truly "love at first sight". So how do you tellrepparttar 149823 difference?

Ask yourselfrepparttar 149824 following questions. Read each question carefully and really think about it before answering. When answering, try to be as truthful as possible. If you can honestly and sincerely answer "yes" to all or nearly all ofrepparttar 149825 questions, it may be safe to assume what you feel forrepparttar 149826 other person is actually love and not merely lust.

Keep in mind, these questions are quite general and are in no way a total and complete checklist.

Men Should Avoid The Grand Manipulator

Written by Deborah Willis

Let's face it...some women can be ruthless. There are certain women inrepparttar world men simply DO NOT want to get mixed up with. I call these women "grand manipulators" because they will use every trick they can think of to get you to do what they want, when they want, and how they want.

I once knew a woman who wasrepparttar 149696 epitome of manipulation. Her view of men was that they were a necessary evil to getrepparttar 149697 things out of life she wanted. She would use them, abuse them, and then kick them torepparttar 149698 curb once they had served their purpose.

Inrepparttar 149699 beginning ofrepparttar 149700 relationship she always seemed to be a sweet, caring, nurturing woman torepparttar 149701 men she chose as her prey. Once she'd gotten what she wanted from them she'd turn into a screaming witch of a woman in order to driverepparttar 149702 man away from her.

For instance, she once decided she needed a new car but was unwilling to footrepparttar 149703 bill to pay for it herself. Not that she couldn't afford it, because she could. She had a job and earned a very good salary...good enough that she could afford to put 40% of each paycheck into her retirement savings. But to her it was unthinkable to temporarily lowerrepparttar 149704 percentage she put away in order to pay for a car herself.

She found a vulnerable man as her prey. It was truly amazing how she lured this man into her life and her bed. She put on her best act for him. She was all sweetness, smiles, and honey. Once she had him "hooked", so to speak, she began to play on his sympathies by complaining often about her old worn-out car and how she just "couldn't afford to replace it because there's no room in my budget for an expense like that".

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