Is Your Mate Cheating?Written by Sam Stevens
You've been together several months, but something doesn't feel quite right with your partner. You start wondering if he or she might be having an affair. Is it jealousy, your imagination or just apathy that is result of long-term complacency with each other? It can be hard to tell sometimes, but when in doubt go with your gut and look for following behaviors that might mean your mate is having an affair. Oddly, your partner might be having an affair if he or she is acting MORE attentive than usual to you. If you are suddenly showered with gifts and compliments in what almost seems like an inappropriate manner, then he or she might be trying to make up for guilty feelings. Look for a sudden change in your partner's routine. Is he or she staying out a lot longer than usual, not showing up for dinner or unaccountable at times for his or her whereabouts? If your partner suddenly alters his or her daily habits that too can be a sign of cheating. If your partner is frequently picking fights with you, that might also mean big trouble. The emotional logic behind this is that picking a fight gives him or her to an excuse to fly out of house and possibly into arms of third party. That way cheating partner can deny guilty feelings and blame you instead. If you are not to blame, a cheater will create a reason to justify what he or she is doing to you. Your mate might also become overly critical of you. This is part of an agenda that once again, gives them an excuse to leave or justify affair. The guilty partner might also be overly sensitive to criticism from you as there may be a ring of truth that triggers guilty feelings that they would rather not face. If every time you have fight your partner threatens you with ending relationship, you might also have a cheater on your hands. Your lover feels safe with these ultimatums because they have another person as "back-up" should two of you decide to split up. Another sign of cheating is a consistent negative attitude towards relationship and comments that make you feel as if you have an expiry date inked on your forehead. This might include saying such things as "I would like to travel next year." (with no mention of a "we") or "You know I will always love you, even if this ever ended." If your lover becomes withdrawn and depressed, it could be that he or she is brooding about what they have done and can't handle guilt. Sudden explosive displays of affection or anger can also be a bad sign, as partner might be transferring emotional reactions from infidelity onto you simply because you see each other more often. In other words, you may be recipient of a mood that is not due to any of your actions at all.
| | With this herb, there comes a WedWritten by Alma De La Cruz
The late Cuban singer and queen of salsa, Celia Cruz, said it clear in her classic salsa “El Yerbero Moderno” (the modern herbist). The rhythmical song names some herbs and their better use: “…I bring Basil, for skinny one; I bring Vetivert, for blind one…” and so on. Ok, it's true, original lyrics are more fun as they rhyme in Spanish, but idea to pick up there is that “with this herb you can get married.” Other herbs she sings about are Holy Grass, Jechimon, Abre Camino, Garden Rue, Basil, Apazote, and Vetivert which are normally used for their medical healing properties. But what her music says not only has approval of Afro and Latino descendents, it has also recognition of many of us who practice Santeria, which is a combination of Afro magical ritual and Spaniard religion. Santeria was born in Cuba and Brazil . The use of plants and herbs are part of their magical ritual of worshiping spirits. We have explained before methods in which plants, herbs, and roots should be used to attract and maintain love you are seeking. But since then, Wiccan masters have found more herbs possessing love properties as well as their common uses for helping psychic powers, prosperity, protection, and other human realms. For instance, spiritual healers recommend different ways in which these herbs may convey natural energy and love. You may carry plant material on your person, take an infusion bath, and boil it in water or just eat it as an aphrodisiac meal. To achieve first option, make a tiny talisman by putting one to three leafs in a small hand-made mojo bag; these are easy to take with you as they can be placed into your bag, wallet or pocket. You may try boiling herb you've bought into water; then, after cooling it, splash it onto your body in shower. Another option would be to use magical powers that many know surrounds their kitchen. It means you should concentrate on person of your desire as you prepare a love potion which then can be drunk (i.e. tea, chilled beverage and cocktails) or eaten (mixed with fish, soy, meat, chicken, grains, etc.). For those who don't know, some of these herbs may taste bitter, sour, salty, spicy, and sweet. On this, I always remind of what my mentor once told me: “Well, at least try to sweeten yourself with a Vanilla ice cream instead of bittersweet potions.” Herbs with other properties than love
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