Is This The One?

Written by Skye Thomas

Isn't thatrepparttar million dollar question? How can I tell if this isrepparttar 122079 one? Is this one my soulmate? How will I know when I findrepparttar 122080 right one? There is no magic answer, but I can tell you what seems to work. I asked a psychic one time if a certain person was my soulmate. His answer, "If you have to ask, then he's notrepparttar 122081 one." He went on to explain that with soulmates no matter how good or bad a day you have together, you wake up inrepparttar 122082 morning knowing without a doubt that this isrepparttar 122083 one and you go to bed at night knowing without a doubt that this isrepparttar 122084 one. Nothing that happens in between those two points can change your mind.

Whenever I find happily married couples in their fifties or older who have been married for most of their lives to each other, I always ask them, "How did you know this wasrepparttar 122085 one?" Every single one ofrepparttar 122086 men answeredrepparttar 122087 same way. They all said thatrepparttar 122088 first time they laid eyes onrepparttar 122089 girl, they knew in that moment that they would eventually propose to her. For every one of those men it was love at first sight. "But why that one? What made you fall in love with that particular woman at first glance?" Each one answers differently, but they all have a vague unanswerable quality thatrepparttar 122090 guy just knew she was it before they even knew whatrepparttar 122091 girl's name was.

The women all said they thoughtrepparttar 122092 guy was nice enough, just okay, or a little goofy but not too bad. None ofrepparttar 122093 women fell head over heels right away. The women were all living a happy upbeat life and were not really searching for a husband whenrepparttar 122094 guy came along. That may be a big part ofrepparttar 122095 mystique that these women created. They were not needy nor desperate. Truth be told all ofrepparttar 122096 lifetime happily married women I know are very strong and independent, but loyal and loving women. None of them are nags nor codependent types.

The thing that all of these couples have in common is thatrepparttar 122097 each one was relatively happy and mentally healthy going about their lives, their goals, and their dreams. All of them planned to some day fall in love and get married to one person for life but none were attached to a soulmate type concept or ideal. None of these people were sexually loose but they weren't complete prudes either. They chose not to sleep around because they had a strong sense of self-respect. Some had religious beliefs that added torepparttar 122098 dynamic and others did not. All were of a mindset that you simply didn't whore around forrepparttar 122099 heck of it.

In all cases,repparttar 122100 man chasedrepparttar 122101 woman. You have to rememberrepparttar 122102 deep underlying needs ofrepparttar 122103 male and females of our species. The man must hunt and conquer. If she's too easy to catch, then there must be something wrong with her. Right or wrong, men have a very deep down need to 'win'repparttar 122104 girl. They were all upbeat, bright, kind, loving women with full happy lives of their own. None ofrepparttar 122105 women were pushovers and none ofrepparttar 122106 women were easy to 'win.' It was always love at first sight onrepparttar 122107 man's end, but not onrepparttar 122108 woman's. The women were not cold and unapproachable, sorepparttar 122109 men were able to charm them and 'win' them over. All of these relationships had at least a two-year courtship and engagement period. Their eyes were wide open when they said, "I do."

To Stay Married, Start Dating

Written by Terry Hernon MacDonald

One of my favorite memories from last year was not watching my young daughters rip into their Christmas presents, or seeing them perform inrepparttar school talent show. No, my happiest recollection wasrepparttar 122078 date my husband and I went out on one stormy Tuesday night in November.

A few days before, wed had our fill of runningrepparttar 122079 girls to swimming lessons and fighting with them to do their homework. We could not endurerepparttar 122080 sight of one more PTA notice requesting money for this fundraiser or attendance at that meeting. We broke. We called a sitter and reserved a table atrepparttar 122081 most elegant restaurant in town.

And what a night it was. The sitter was late, of course, andrepparttar 122082 wind was snapping off tree branches and hurling them at our car, but we made it. The food,repparttar 122083 wine, andrepparttar 122084 service were fine. We putrepparttar 122085 children firmly out of our minds. Byrepparttar 122086 timerepparttar 122087 salad came, we were sufficiently unwound.

We started having fun. We were laughing. The subjects ofrepparttar 122088 weird charge on our cell phone bill or our dire need for a new refrigerator never enteredrepparttar 122089 discussion. We were transformed intorepparttar 122090 couple we used to be before children, two cars, and a mortgage. We were footloose, fancy free, and out for a good time.

The happiness of that evening stayed with us for many days. We were attentive to one another. We remembered why wed gotten married and were glad for it, proving my mothers advice that happy couples continue to date each other forever.

Its important, shed say.

But, inrepparttar 122091 early years of our marriage, Id make excuses. Diaper and formula bills left little money for nights out onrepparttar 122092 town. It was impossible to find a good babysitter. It was selfish of us to take time away fromrepparttar 122093 children.

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