Good question. The fact is, we need both IQ and EQ. You can't have "too much" emotional intelligence, but that doesn't mean at expense of logic.

It's time to use logic, for instance, when figuring out a budget, or making a timeline for a project. Then there's a time to use emotional intelligence - using leadership skills, for instance, to get those people to make that timeline and project happen.

Emotional intelligence means using all your faculties, including logic and reason, to bring about results that are favorable. It means having flexibility and creativity to see alternatives.

When I was still that puny little kid of 8 years old, I would often explain to myself, and often times in my head, why we have "this" and why we have "that". I would often believe that I am right and when an "explanation" struck me like why sky is blue and not pink, I would go right to encyclopedia and then found out that I was, indeed, closer to truth. I thought of myself as strange and lucky at same time, never thinking that at some point, these "bursts" of thoughts would make me a more bolder type of person. Never afraid of quantified but calculable risks.

Last night, I devoured words and thoughts of some of our "successful thinkers" in their prime. Corey Rudl, Marlon Sanders, Terry Dean and a lot more. I was in that deep self-less thought wondering what "really" made them click and hot and why their words and thoughts alone sell in millions. These are what I found out.

Never afraid to be what you have to be

There would always be a point in your life when you would burst bubble and tell yourself that you would never be successful. Wrong. Everyone of us has a reason to be here. Never be afraid to do what you want to do or to be what you have to be. There will be a time when you have to let go of your creativity, of your inner self and be super person that you are.

I had dreams of becoming a successful songwriter and singer even when I was 5 years old. I would often see myself on stage with bright lights and people showering me with compliments. I can never let go of that inspiration until I came to a point that I was doing it. I now have national multiple song writing awards and I am proud that some of most successful singers have been singing songs of my childhood..of what I've been through.

Let your pain make you strong

We all have our pains. Pains from our experiences past and present. Perhaps you're most unloved child. You did not finish high school. You seperated from your wife or husband. Never less, you should not let your pain make you weak. Get your strength from it. I can't tell you how but you're only one who can control your emotions. You can change yourself and only from "inside-out".

Most successful people had traumatic experiences when they were young. Perhaps a close love one died. They were very poor and had practically nothing to eat.

One story my dad always loved to tell was of his relative who was so poor that he had to borrow my dad's clothes to go to school.