Infidelity Discovered? 10 Ways to Calm Your Powerful Feelings

Written by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach

When you find out aboutrepparttar affair,repparttar 149585 first few hours, days and weeks can be emotionally wrenching to sayrepparttar 149586 least. Or, if someone you deeply care about begins "pulling away" you may also experience intense feelings. Read through this list and pick out a couple things you can do to help yourself during these times.

1. Walk. Run, if you are fit enough to run. Work out. Getrepparttar 149587 blood flowing. Physical exercise drains offrepparttar 149588 adrenaline and physically you feel better. You also think better of yourself because you are caring for you.

2. Talk. If you typically handle problems by talking them out, find someone who will listen as you pour out your heart. Give them explicit instructions: "I need to talk, vent, cry, rage, and question. Just look me inrepparttar 149589 eye, nod your head and listen."

3. Write. Get a kitchen timer. Set it for 5 minutes. Spend that time writing...anything, everything that comes to your mind. Don't censor. Whenrepparttar 149590 bell goes off say to yourself, "OK, there it is. Now I need to get on to other things. I will come back later and write more." Putrepparttar 149591 writing in a safe place or destroy it.

4. Find a safe place and spend some time there. Do you have a favorite lake, wooded area, park, room, chair where you feel safe and can "get away." Intentionally spend some time there.

5. Use good "self talk." Tell yourself, "You are ok. You will be ok. This too shall pass. What you are feeling is normal and will not destroy you." Develop that "observing part" that can speak to your turmoil.

Marriage Finances 101

Written by Robb Ksiazek

Marriage is a wonderful thing, but planningrepparttar wedding is a difficult task. The coming together leaves many things as an afterthought torepparttar 149426 wedding. Each has their own credit cards, checking accounts, and utility bills. Hopefully, neither has a lot of debt.

Most people do not think about finances when they are getting married. It takesrepparttar 149427 romance out of it. But it is necessary to make some sort of arrangements, or at least a plan of how to get things consolidated.

Letís start with checking accounts. There are a couple ways to go about it. Many financial experts believe that you should keep your individual accounts. It will be easier to manage and keep track of transactions with only one hand inrepparttar 149428 cookie jar.

Open up a joint account for your expenditures. Each should deposit a certain percent intorepparttar 149429 joint account to cover your allotted expenditure budget. What is left over can be deposited into your separate accounts and savings account.

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