1. Walk. Run, if you are fit enough to run. Work out. Get blood flowing. Physical exercise drains off adrenaline and physically you feel better. You also think better of yourself because you are caring for you.

2. Talk. If you typically handle problems by talking them out, find someone who will listen as you pour out your heart. Give them explicit instructions: "I need to talk, vent, cry, rage, and question. Just look me in eye, nod your head and listen."

3. Write. Get a kitchen timer. Set it for 5 minutes. Spend that time writing...anything, everything that comes to your mind. Don't censor. When bell goes off say to yourself, "OK, there it is. Now I need to get on to other things. I will come back later and write more." Put writing in a safe place or destroy it.

4. Find a safe place and spend some time there. Do you have a favorite lake, wooded area, park, room, chair where you feel safe and can "get away." Intentionally spend some time there.

Most people do not think about finances when they are getting married. It takes romance out of it. But it is necessary to make some sort of arrangements, or at least a plan of how to get things consolidated.

Let’s start with checking accounts. There are a couple ways to go about it. Many financial experts believe that you should keep your individual accounts. It will be easier to manage and keep track of transactions with only one hand in cookie jar.