Impractical MagicWritten by Sam Stevens
Witchcraft is a messy, expensive, time-consuming, and inefficient way to achieve your aims. I know, because I've tried it ... For instance, I once tried to increase my abundance by applying principles of Feng Shui. So, I bought a $40.00 book which instructed me to enhance my "prosperity" by putting chimes on porch, an aquarium full of gold fish in front hallways and a jolly statue of a Buddha at front door. Before I knew it my phone was ringing off hook with people asking to" reserve a table for four at seven." Unfortunately what I really wanted was writing gigs! I have also tried "clearing" my space, Native American Indian Way by doing a "smudge". This means walking around your house in a counter-wise circle with a flaming bundle of North American grasses. Well, I must of done something wrong, like perhaps accidently eliminate good vibes that were already in my house, because before I knew it, a bunch of nasty energy invaded my space - an angry landlord, neighbours and members of fire department all demanding to know what strange reek was and why I kept setting off fire alarm. It didn't help that I was doing this ritual "sky clad" which is witch-talk for buck-naked. Most spells demand that you create a talisman or magical object of some kind and carry it around with you at all times. Of course, at no time, in any book I've ever read about witchcraft, does it tell you what to do when you lose talisman and usually talisman is something really small and complicated like "a chestnut that has been filled with mercury and had hole sealed up with red wax." You lose something like that, which represents all your good luck and you really do spend a couple of weeks wondering what's going to happen next. You get so anxious that your subconscious manifests worst case scenario anyway.
| | What's up with Unconditional Love?Written by Sam Stevens
To tell you truth, I'm a little disillusioned with term unconditional love, lately. It's just not "natural". The phrase has been used for decades, by psychologists, therapists, A.A. types and overall spiritually minded to describe how one should cope with impossible behavior." The original principle behind concept, was to help person who is being abused accept circumstances and not have to live in a perpetual state of resentment towards their partner. You, as codependent (ie one who is always hurt) is supposed to see your partner as "sick" and not blame him or her for their actions. You're supposed to love and care for adulterer, batterer, gambler, manic depressive or alcoholic same way you would someone who has flu. Husband comes home drunk? Sober him up with cups of black coffee and a dose of your eternally burning, unconditional love. Boyfriend unfaithful? That's O.k., because you have unconditional love for him that will last for an eternity. Girlfriends rack up your credit cards again with her compulsive shopping? You'll take care of bills because you're love for her is undying and unconditional and you've told yourself ""I'll always love her no matter what ...."Those of us who have been there know that we can only comfort ourselves with concept of unconditional love for so long until relationship becomes too expensive, emotionally, socially and financially. This is often more serious then kind of consequences we pay when someone is sick with "the flu." Plus lately, after talking to many clients, many of whom are still paying in one way or another for irresponsible behavior of a full grown adult, I am starting to conclude that when person with "ism" or "recently diagnosed personality disorder" is on to us then out comes term unconditional love. If we say no or object to behavior, he or she can always turn around and go "but I thought you said your love was me was
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