I Found Love at a Online Dating Site

Written by Ken Katz


Overrepparttar past few years, I discovered a few personality traits about myself that I wanted to change. When it comes to relationships I have had a hard time changing. I am stubborn. And, I don't like change. Sometimes, when you are set in your ways, change is hard.

Finding love has always been hard for me. I think I had found that special woman that I will wanted to spendrepparttar 146795 rest of my life with, but thenrepparttar 146796 bubble would burst. I discovered that what I wanted fromrepparttar 146797 relationship and what I actually had was vastly different. Probably my expectations were too high. I just wanted love, to be loved and to share my life with a special person. The women I tend to fall in love with tend to have different ideas. Some ofrepparttar 146798 women wanted to be supported, some seemed to just want a friend and then some really didn't know what they really want.

I found that I tended to stay inrepparttar 146799 relationship too long. I didn't leave when I knew I should. I did this because I always had hoped thatrepparttar 146800 relationship would change forrepparttar 146801 better. I had discovered that this is a false hope and never got better.

My problem is that I am was easy. What people call a pushover. It probably is a combination of low self esteem, shyness and having a really easy personality. I try to take life in stride. Even though I think I know what is happening, it is still really easy to take advantage of me.

My love life had gotten so bad that after my last relationship I decided I never wanted another relationship again. I was finished with this search that I have been told from childhood. It wasrepparttar 146802 fantasy that I must seek and findrepparttar 146803 right woman to share a life with, to support and take care of. I came to believe that that was "garbage" advice. I would take care of these woman buy they never gave back to me.

But, Internet dating has helped me slowly understand and change my personality traits. I have registered with a few online dating sites that I had researched on Google and found on dating site directories. I did not go to torepparttar 146804 big boys, like eHarmony or Match. I stayed withrepparttar 146805 smaller sites, to learn and get comfortable with this new form of finding a companion.

I first started with a dating site, which is now out of business, because it had a forum area. Inrepparttar 146806 evenings after work I would go and log intorepparttar 146807 forum to meet new people. I met both men and woman and many had similar experiences to me. I felt comfortable, because, I was anonymous, and could make myself known only when I wanted. I guess this isrepparttar 146808 shyness in me. I then moved onto another site I found on Google and sounded fun. It turned out to be a good decision.

Motivation to change, why is it so hard?

Written by Lynne Dean


We encounter constant changes throughout our life; it could be educational, health, relationships or financial, and of course with oneself. Maintaining or increasing one’s sense of self-worth and happiness are strong incentives for these changes.

Too often trials and errors affect our self-esteem and therefore hinder true engagement in learning and changing. It’s very comforting to have a routine, and very frightening to go forward torepparttar unknown. Its takes courage and determination. This is nothing new. You have done it before, perhaps not deliberately but you have gone through many changes during your life.

Change is stressful. No doubt about it. Why not make it as stressless as possible? Try to considerrepparttar 146767 following:

Uderstandrepparttar 146768 intentions, motivations, and desires of your new endeavours. Acknowledgerepparttar 146769 strengths and constraint it will bring. Allow yourself to take risks and not to take any fall back personally. Remember trials and errors are part of learning and being alive.

Compel to understand, to appreciate one’s feelings, fears and motivations; be sure to use such information to better your life. Use this information to guide your thinking and action.

Let go of negative thoughts, integrate new ideas with what you already know and userepparttar 146770 new information to move forward. Be flexible, allow for new and different ways to achieve your goal, it might bring you different opportunities atrepparttar 146771 end. Why not supply yourself with options. Have some contingencies as backup plans, it will calm down this feeling of vulnerability.

Unfortunately too often as adults we want to do everything ourselves…mistakes. We are not alone; tons of people have been through changes, often similar to ours; seek and accept support from others. They experienced it, they might know something you haven’t’ thought about. Give it a try.

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