Motivational: I'm Not Looking for a Friend, I'm Looking for a Jedi Master

I'm Not Looking for a Friend, I'm Looking for a Jedi Master

Written by Susan Dunn, M.A., The EQ Coach

Coaching's been around for about 10 years but there are still lots of people who haven't tried it yet, and don't know what it's about.

Two major confusions in people's minds are: ·What's repparttar difference between coaching and therapy, and;

·What's repparttar 123629 difference between coaching and a good friend

Coaching's similar to therapy, except that therapy focuses on your emotions, particularly unresolved ones from repparttar 123630 past and defective patterns of thinking and reacting that have developed.

In coaching, we're concerned about feelings - my specialty is emotional intelligence after all - but repparttar 123631 focus is on managing them and moving forward. Taking action is what coaching's all about.

Now what's repparttar 123632 difference between a coach and a good friend? A lot!

I have friends and I'm also coach, and I help friends, but not at all in repparttar 123633 way I work with clients. With friends, it's give and take. There are also set patterns to most relationships. If you go to a friend for advice, first, they aren't trained, so they're likely to tell you what they would do, not explore with you your options and best solutions. Secondly, friends have their own issues and agendas which cloud things.

Do You Know You How To Focus?

Written by Jan Tincher

Do you know how to focus?

No?

Well, if you did know how, would it help you remember people's names? Would it stop you from being nervous, or at least help you control your thoughts so your thoughts don't make you nervous?

You Bet!

How about if you talk too much or too loud? Would focusing help you?

You Bet!

Would it help you remember where you left something? Or why you even walked into that room in repparttar first place?

You Bet!

Well, if focusing is such a benefit, why haven't you learned how? Too many reasons to go into, right?

Well, you've got time to read this now, you might as well learn while you're here. What do you say? Shall we do it?

OK! Here goes!

Step one: *Don't you just love it? I am so methodical.* Stand up straight. Take a deep breath and close your eyes.

*** Sidebar Now, some of us aren't in shape, so maybe we'll have to sit down for this. The rest of you, STAND. *** End of sidebar

Step two: Think of all repparttar 123628 wonderful things that have happened in your life.

*** Sidebar Remember, your mind does not know repparttar 123629 difference between real and vividly imagined. If you don't have any wonderful things that have happened to you, imagine repparttar 123630 wonderful things happening to you. *** End of sidebar

Step three: Imagine what it feels like to experience something you don't think you can handle.

Step four: Now, imagine yourself succeeding. Succeeding, regardless!

How do you stand when you're feeling that way? How do you look? How do you FEEL?

Step five: Now, on that feeling of exhilaration, feel repparttar 123631 calm that is also there. Stand or sit straighter and imagine a golden glow of light in repparttar 123632 shape of a funnel on repparttar 123633 top of your head. Feel that light as it courses through your body.

Step six: Take another deep breath. Now, hold that breath in. As you hold your breath in, feel your heart beat.

Step seven: In your mind, feel your heart beat in your left little finger.

*Or if you can't feel it there, feel it in your right elbow, or wherever. Anywhere besides your heart. Remember, whatever works, works.*

Step eight: Wait a couple heartbeats or so, then mentally move your heartbeat from your left little finger *or wherever you had it* to another place on your body. Isn't this fun? It's always nice to stretch your mind, isn't it? *** Is this repparttar 123634 time to remind you that your mind is like a muscle? USE IT OR LOSE IT? Hm? ***

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