How to succeed in a macho worldWritten by Valerie Vauthey
Did you know that there was a time when women ruled world? When most revered figures were females: goddesses, empresses, and mothers. but Three thousand years ago, vast majority of humanity abandoned goddesses for gods as our ancestors settled and developed agriculture. This was end of direct female domination. Or was it? Thanks to their formidable inner-strength and to their unflinching determination, women soon started to develop their very own talent to get what they desired, be it a husband, a child, wealth, a house, and more. Women understood early on that reaching their goals was far more important than path they took to get to them. Women understood before time that they should never let men feel they lost face or have been manipulated. Women fundamentally knew that men needed to believe they were responsible for their success to fully enjoy it. Women have always been aware that confrontation was not way to victory (ultimately).How do these secularly developed techniques translate into today’s world? How can we thrive in today’s macho business environment? There are several ways to succeed. They might all be combined, or they can exist individually...,which makes it fairly easy in end to succeed in a macho world! MyPrivateCoach conducted a survey where we asked 256 people if they agreed or not on 8 statements and results are exciting! (With a 50/50 men to women ratio.) The vast majority of women think they need to behave like men to be successful whereas men believe that what makes a woman successful is actually her femininity! Just before sharing results, Let one of our surveyed people, Rebecca, sum up fine line women are walking on when doing business in a macho world: “If women are strong, they are ball busters, and if they show any weakness or softness, they are little girls trying to play in a man’s world.” -1- Use feminine attributes (Men: 90% - Women: 25%) Interestingly enough (and should I say, as expected), men and women are absolutely not in agreement on this statement. Little girls’ education gives us some undeniable advantages to compete in a dominantly male group or company: better communication skills, better empathy with colleagues and clients and most importantly, better cooperation and better understanding of modus operandi of our work mates. We also have a body, a way of expressing our femininity, which men believe we try to hide more often than we should. This is even truer since lawsuits against sexual harassment started to take off. However, businessmen are begging us: be yourself! You can dress professionally and in all your femininity without being provocative. Be a woman and be proud of it (keep in mind though that a little pinch of perceived vulnerability won’t hurt a bit). Yet, I do notice that many female executives and CEO (still too rare) in software, legal, banking and high-tech industry wear rather conservative suits (usually pants) and short hair cut... maybe something to think about…is this reason for their success? Or are they trying to avoid despising comments like: “I know how she climbed ladder, short skirt and sexy attitudes”. -2- Talk about facts, not feelings (Men: 95% - Women: 30%) Again, it all goes back to our childhood games and women tend to give more weight to non-tangible elements than facts in a business relationship. While this attitude can be a great sales closing tool, more often than not, it will hamper our efforts in day-to-day corporate world. Strive at not letting your emotions take over facts. Do not take things personally. When you foresee your feelings may prevent you from considering facts straight or negotiating successfully, sit back, relax and reformulate your thoughts and ideas in a logical and rational way. Rather than saying: "I like this idea", try to (think) and say: "This idea will work because X YZ logical reason or marketing reason that we know about this audience". This will make wonders in a male/female business relationship. If we look at what men and women think about this statement, we get an enormous gap! Almost all men agree on fact that facts matter! Women don’t seem to realize how much of a showstopper “facts vs. emotions paradigm” is.
| | Russian Women Online: Meet Real-Life Russian Brides!!Written by Elena Petrova
You certainly have heard about mail order brides and Russian women seeking foreign men for marriage, but most likely you have not met any real-life Russian brides. Let me introduce you to a few of them – a tiny fraction of many thousands Russian women that found their love and marriage with western men. But first, a reality check: * What kind of Russian women are seeking partners abroad, do you think? -- Some desperate, poor girls that try to better their lot in life by “selling themselves”? ** Who are men that seek Russian brides, do you think? -- Some old, unattractive losers, who cannot attract any woman at home? Do those answers make sense to you? Then read on – you are up to a surprise! Meet real-life Russian brides: 1) Marina Smiley, MD – married to an American she met online. Medical Doctor by education, Marina used to have her own successful company back in Russia; author or popular eBooks “The shocking truth about Russian brides” (http://www.womenrussia.com/aboutrussianbrides.htm) and “Sex and love with Russian women” (http://www.womenrussia.com/datingrw.htm). Marina hates hype of Russian marriage agencies and believes it is about time to set up record straight in regard to Russian women seeking men for marriage. 2) Olga Sapp – M-degree in journalistic, married to an American man for more than 5 years. Olga is Editor of popular Russian Women Magazine http://www.russianwomenmagazine.com - a magazine for Russian women living abroad and for interested men. She used to be a successful TV-journalist back in Russia, and knows media industry from A to Z. 3) Elena Hughes – M-degree, married to an American man she met online. Elena used to have a successful travel agency back at her home country Belarus but decided that having her own family was more important. So she sold her travel agency and set herself to find a husband abroad – started to learn English and communicate with western men via Internet. Meet Elena and her husband Doug at http://www.russian-wife.net
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