The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long as author resource box at end is included. Notification of publication would be appreciated.Title: The Five Best Gifts to Give Your Family Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2003 by Margaret Paul Web Address: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 744 Category: Parenting, Relationships
THE FIVE BEST GIFTS TO GIVE YOUR FAMILY By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
When we think of giving gifts, we usually think of things to buy for people. Yet if you think back on gifts you’ve been given, it might not be material gifts you received that are foremost in your mind – it might be kind of gifts that deeply touched your heart and soul. It might be various ways, other than material things, that people expressed their love to you.
There are five gifts of love that we can give to our families that can make a huge difference in their lives.
THE GIFT OF CARING AND COMPASSION
We all yearn to feel cared for, yet many of us withhold caring and compassion for others. A profound gift we can give to our loved ones is to listen with our heart, to understand and accept rather than to judge, and to stay open to learning rather than to protect against being hurt.
Think about last time someone actually listened to you and gave you understanding and acceptance. The feeling of being understood and accepted with caring and compassion is one of best feelings in world. Instead of focusing on getting this from others, why not focus on giving it to others? You might be surprised at how wonderful you feel in giving this gift to your family.
THE GIFT OF COURAGE
One of best gifts we can give our loved ones is our own courage. This means being having courage to stand in our truth, to be honest about what we want and don’t want, what we will do and won’t do, what is and what is not acceptable to us. It means having courage to take good care of ourselves, even if others don’t like it. It means not succumbing to our controlling behaviors that come from fear: anger, withdrawal, compliance, resistance, but instead being honest and above-board about ourselves. It means being willing to face conflict rather than give ourselves up to avoid it.
When we have courage to face conflict and tell truth, we not only provide our family with a role model for courage, but we provide opportunities for our loved ones to step up to plate in face of our truth and learn to be courageous too.