How to make relationships workWritten by Johann Erickson
The keys ingredients to a healthy relationship are respect, love, trust, individuality, patience, compromise, setting goals as a couple, and intimacy.
1. Respect is a two way street, you must respect your partner if you want them to respect you. Respect their thoughts, dreams, ambitions and their alone time. Treat them as you would want them to treat you when you discuss their ambitions or just their hobbies.
2. Love is one of those emotions that many people can turn on and off on a whim. If you are one of those type people, then your relationships will never go far. When you really love someone you take care to pay attention to their desires and their needs. If you turn off your love when your partner does not agree with you, then you are not acting out of love but out of selfishness. Selfishness does not belong in a relationship. When you become partners you should be one. That does not mean that other person will always agree, but you should be able to see their point of view and work through situation in a loving manner.
3. Trust person that you have chosen to spend rest of your life with. If you are always questioning their whereabouts or their motives, they will soon not want to come home and be put under microscope.
4. Let them be themselves. Individuality is very important for each person to attain. Just because they are your partner does not mean that you were joined at hip on your wedding day. Let your spouse go play golf, go shopping or enjoy other hobbies that make this person one that you fell in love with. If you take away their individuality, they will no longer be that person, but someone you have molded them into. They will become unhappy and so will you.
5. Patience is one ingredient that many couple seems to ignore. But, you are beginning a life together. You both have your own little habits that may annoy one another, but if you have patience and discuss these annoying habits you both will be able to overcome and share your life together. We all grow in a relationship and growing means change, have patience with each other as your marriage or relationship blossoms and grows.
How to Keep your Relationships StrongWritten by Johann Erickson
What is secret of keeping your relationship going through thick and thin? Divorce was once a problem that was not heard of before many of us were born, and today, you can find some couples that have been married for 50 years or more. But, what is it that they have and had in past that kept their relationships strong?
Too many couples run head long into a relationship head over heels in love only to hit a brick wall in a few months when their normal and every day life takes charge. You hear many couples say comments such as “He doesn’t listen”, “She is constantly nagging” and many other derogatory remarks about love of their life.
The number one reason marriages do not last or even any relationship for that matter is lack of respect for one another. All of remarks that we tell others about our spouse or lover should not be demeaning. We all have opinions and there are two sides to every story. You may say he is not listening, but when are you trying to talk with him? And are you trying to talk with him or at him? Maybe she is nagging, but have you been listening?
Communication is very important and when you communicate you will each learn to respect one another. Do not try to talk with your husband when he is busy reading paper or watching television. Do not nag. If she is constantly asking you to do something for her and you never get around to it, she will begin to think that you are not listening to her. What maybe important to her, may not be as important to you. Talk with your wife and give her a specific time where you both can sit down and talk about why you forgot. You both should set a time each day to talk with one another about your day and anything that is on your mind. This way you both will be listening to one another and there will not be any nagging. Remember, respecting each other also means giving them time to be alone, do things they enjoy without being nagged or degraded for activities they enjoy.