How to look at disappointments constructively?Written by ajaypats
Success isn't permanent, and failure isn't fatal.It is possible to fail in many ways...while to succeed is possible only in one way.You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don't try.Don't be disappointed by a failure. It can be a positive experience. Failure is, in a sense, highway to success, inasmuch as every discovery of what is false leads us to seek earnestly after what is true, and every fresh experience points out some form of error which we shall afterwards carefully avoid.You always pass failure on way to success.A minute's success pays failure of years.Success is ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.Disappointment When you suffer a disappointment, it hurts. It hurts enough that it can powerfully motivate you to find a better way.
| | How to overcome stagnation?Written by ajaypats
Some people just can't seem to move beyond their current situations in life. They can't find a better job, make more money, find happiness in relationships, or find fulfillment. . As we grow and change, we eventually run into outer limits of our safety zone known as our "belief system." The belief system confines our existence, and consists of knowledge and experiences that shape who we are and what we value in our lives. What was fulfilling, is now a burden. What was exciting, is now boring. At this point, we must learn how to extend, or change, our belief systems to allow us to move forward and find new meaning and new fulfillment. --- Spheres of Belief --- A belief system can be viewed as consisting of three distinct, yet interconnected, "spheres of belief." Each sphere represents an area of our lives that we maintain as our own secure zones. Our core values and beliefs that affect our daily lives are taken from combination of these three spheres. * Sphere One: The first sphere contains relationships and our interpersonal goals. It represents our interaction with others in our lives including family and friends. It provides us with a foundation of security for interpersonal interaction and growth. * Sphere Two: The second sphere contains professional goals. This is area of our life that supports ability to work toward a vision with knowledge to provide security for ourselves and our family. * Sphere Three: The third and final sphere contains personal goals. This sphere contains our knowledge and experiences that define our personal desires, goals, and direction. This is also area in which we store our personal identities. The primary benefit of building and maintaining your spheres is that they provide a solid and definable arena in which you can live and work comfortably. However, problem is that, occasionally, these spheres become too confining and eventually limit your growth. In essence, when you hit outer wall of any sphere, you must determine best way to increase size of sphere to accommodate your growth and still maintain your security. --- Establishing Core Values --- From birth, we constantly receive information from which we build and create a belief system and core values. The information comes from our environment, parents, people we feel are in authority, and various other inputs. In some cases, environment is positive and in others, it is negative. Regardless, it is that with which we all learn to cope until it is familiar and comfortable. For example, if we grow up in a loving, family environment, then we learn
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