SOUL SHOCK - by Steve Gunn
internationally-acclaimed psychic and healer
An excerpt from his new eBook about Soul Mates 'When Two Souls Connect'
'The human heart feels things eyes cannot see,
and knows what mind cannot understand.' -Robert Vallett
If youíve met someone whoís changed you forever
If you love someone so much you realize you just werenít alive before them
If youíve met someone whoís awakened you to unbelievable beauty of existence
If youíve met someone who is more you than even you are
If you miss someone so much you canít even conceive of existing without them
If you've lost someone and it feels like your soul left with them then read onÖ
Typical of many cases I deal with is story of Fiona and Robert.
I first met Fiona when she booked a telephone reading and I realized she was suffering a great deal of pain and confusion from recent breakup of her relationship with Robert. I recommended she seek healing and, a week later, she arrived at my door.
I wish I had a cent for every tear that has been shed on that end of my sofa -- itís a wonder it isnít afloat by now. Seeing people in complete despair is a common occurrence for me but it never gets any easier watching someone fall apart, not least because Iíve been there. Some days, you just wonder what human race is coming to when people can hurt others in way this girl was hurting. However, she was here now and I was going to help her.
Her total devastation and confusion was apparent and, as I read both her energies and Robertís, I realized this was a very strong metaphysical ( soul mate ) connection, hence level of suffering she was enduring. She told me her story, described what seemed an ideal relationship Ė until, in midst of it, Robert had turned tail and run without warning. To add to her grief and despair, within a week he had hooked up with someone else and told her he wasnít coming back.
As in most of these cases, by tuning into him I knew he was in love with her. Fiona, however, was in no position to believe this, not based on his actions. It was totally clear to me, however, that bond between them was strong and had grown ever stronger and stronger whilst they were together, to point that it scared hell out of Robert.
How do you tell someone that a person they love has hurt them because they love them too much? How do you explain that Ďrunnerí fears intensity of connection? I could tell this other woman meant nothing to Robert and was just a shoulder for him to cry on. But, to Fiona, it seemed he had been a cheater and had callously lied about loving her. Thatís a very natural assumption when someone you trust totally turns a one eighty and goes off with someone else without warning.
For those of us who are emotionally and spiritually open to love on any level, idea of someone running from happiness is bizarre and cruel in extreme. Fiona was struggling to make sense of it and wasnít winning at all, which added to her immense grief.
As I began her healing and looked at what had happened to her energies, I realized she was suffering from what I call Ďsoul shock.í When someone you have a deep connection with suddenly pulls away, dis-connect leaves you feeling as if your soul has left your body, like an empty shell. You just canít get back to reality and you can feel as if you simply exist.
This experience is similar to grieving death of a loved one and I know many counselors, at least those who accept and understand connections, who will treat this pain in same way as a bereavement
. What we're talking about here is not a conventional emotional relationship. A soul connection is most powerful soul level connection with someone and when separations like this occur you just can't "get over it" or "move on" however hard you try. Many people can't eat sleep or work for a long time, a lot end up on medication and in counseling.
Even after more cases than I can remember, it never fails to amaze me how powerful healing is and what a perfect tool it can be for dealing with soul mate connections. I pulled Robertís energy away from Fionaís so that she wasnít being tugged around like a leaf in a gale by his confusion. This process forced out some of her grief.
Unexpressed emotions are debilitating and dangerous, so I opened up her heart chakra and used a technique I call Ďaccelerated bereavement.í This acceleration brings out despair and pain in a burst of crying thatís so deep you know itís from soul. But, after twenty minutes or so, this incredible pain eases and subject calms. Thatís exactly what happened with Fiona.
What is unique about soul connections is that we feel our partnerís grief and confusion and they feel ours. This creates a tsunami of pain as energy flows across our spiritual link and bounces each of us around like two corks on a string. Putting a block in a place eases Ďsoul shockí tremendously, so thatís what I did to allow Fiona a chance to get on her feet again.
As weeks and months went by, I saw her and treated her on a regular basis. Throughout that time, she grew slowly but progressively stronger, even as she continued to ache badly from pain of separation from Robert. When you are separated from a soul mate, you miss your partner every minute of day and most days are nothing more than a torture of aching and needing. The soul mate connection is unlike a conventional relationship for, in these cases, pain of separation doesnít lessen. Some days it feels as if your heart will burst out of your chest and fly to your true partner.
Fiona experienced all of this and more, although with readings and healing I was able to reduce worst of excesses and keep up her hope that situation would resolve itself and Robert would come back. At times, she would call in total pain and disbelief and ask how anything could hurt so much and why couldnít she just get over him? As always, I explained that a connection so strong was something we have little control over and, in time, he would return. While we wait, all we can do is stay strong and accept what has happened. Trying to understand why just adds to torture.