For example: You might have planned a romantic dinner for you and your partner and spent hours preparing and daydreaming about it. You know exactly how it is going to be, your partner is going to be so delighted and happy and greatly reward you for effort you have made. Oh it's going to be so blissful.

Unfortunately when your partner gets home, there has been a big problem at work. The boss has been giving them a really hard time and they arrive home in a foul mood. They do not even notice how much effort you've gone to, gulp down dinner, and just want to drown out day by having a drink and watching something mindless on television.

After all time you have spent preparing meal and imagining how evening is going to be, you feel let down, hurt, disappointed, uncared for and frustrated.

Depending on your way of dealing with your negative feelings, you will either silently resent your partner for ruining your evening. Or you will start an argument, telling them how much trouble you've gone to and how they don't appreciate anything you do.

After day your partner has had, this is last thing they want or need, and they will probably feel that you don't understand them or care about, or support them when they really need it.

There are actually a number of things that have led to your stress and unhappiness in above scenario and a number of laws that can come into play to help you.

Firstly there are Laws of Expectations and Non-Resistance. You were expecting night and your partner to be a certain way and felt disappointed when they did not live up to images in your mind. You could not accept that night was not going as you wished it too. You were attached to having it be a certain way.

Then there is Law of Giving and Receiving. You were expecting your partner to appreciate what you had done and what you were giving to them. In return you were expecting something back. You were expecting to receive gratitude, attention and affection.

So I was very excited to attend fifth brain lecture in a series (yes, I bought season tickets!) sponsored by Oregon Health Sciences University. You see, guest speaker was Dr. Michael Gazzaniga, father of cognitive neuroscience, and his topic was The Ethical Brain--which happens to be title of a book he will publish this June.

He has written over 20 books, and in his work as director of Center for Cognitive Neuroscience at Dartmouth College, he continues to conduct research on how brain enables mind.

Dr. Gazzaniga believes there is nothing more fascinating than mind, and he is exploring how we develop, hang on to, and change our beliefs. (Do you see why I love him?) Mindfulness allows us to step back and watch our thoughts. By doing so, we can develop a clearer perspective regarding our beliefs and our attachment to them.

In his lecture, Dr. Gazzaniga discussed power of left brain. Remember, that is side that handles logic and language, but interesting part is how those two functions work together, continually creating words to justify our behavior.

Left => logic + language => lists