How to adopt a Loosing AttitudeWritten by Jackie Stanley
We have all heard expression, “Where your heart is?, your treasure will be also.” Allow me to modify this tried and true wisdom, to create an equally valid point: “Where your thoughts are, your hips will be also.” What do I mean by this? Try this experiment: Take a few seconds to write first five words that pop into your head in response to this question: How do I describe myself? For example, you have responded with words like these, “fat,” “old,” or “ugly”. When you’ve finished writing down your five words, go look at yourself in a full-length mirror. I will be willing to bet you a diet coke that what you see in mirror is exactly same as who you think you are. If you think of yourself as fat, unworthy and lazy, that is what you will see. So if you learn to think differently about yourself, you will experience yourself in a new way.
| | Success at Work : People Skills : ComplainingWritten by Stephen Bucaro
---------------------------------------------------------- Permission is granted for below article to forward, reprint, distribute, use for ezine, newsletter, website, offer as free bonus or part of a product for sale as long as no changes are made and byline, copyright, and resource box below is included. ----------------------------------------------------------Success at Work : People Skills : Complaining By Stephen Bucaro Do you know an individual at work who is a chronic complainer? Are YOU a chronic complainer? People don't like complainers. Listening to a chronic complainer gets people depressed. They prefer to associate with people that make them feel good. If you are always complaining about something, people will start to ignore you. If you're a chronic complainer, you're sabotaging yourself and your success at work. In this article, I explain how you can improve your outlook at work and improve your prospects for success. The first thing you need to do is get in touch with reality. People are not perfect and you shouldn't expect them to be. An organization is a group of people, so no company or organization can be perfect. If you expect your organization to be perfect, you need to change your expectations. Instead of expecting things to be perfect, expect everything to be totally screwed up at all times. Then on rare occasion when something does go right, you will be pleasantly surprised. There are many problems that you can't do anything about. Learn to work around things you can't change. Some things you can change. Instead of whining and complaining, take responsibility for a problem you can solve. Don't try to change world, focus on improving your own little corner of company. You might realize that there are many problems you might be able to solve. Don't try to solve all problems at once. Prioritize things that you view as problems and choose your battles. Attack most important problem first. When you complain, limit your complaint to one problem and be specific. Along with your complaint, suggest a realistic solution. If you can't think of a realistic solution to problem, then how do you expect someone else to solve problem? Sometimes it's best to put your complaint in writing. Put your written complaint aside for a day. Don't submit your complaint until your writing is clear, logical, and carefully thought out. By time you finish, you may realize that you didn't completely understand problem, or you may decide that problem isn't worth complaining about after all.
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