How to Tell What They Really Meant

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach

Part of Emotional Intelligence is understandingrepparttar emotions of others, and one ofrepparttar 126120 most important channels we use to communicate emotions is nonverbal communication.

When we’re engaged in communication, we must pay attention to all sorts of things besides justrepparttar 126121 actual words. No matter how we try to define words, they still mean one thing to one person, and another to another.

To understand this, all you need to do is take a sentence and emphasize different things, or use a different tone of voice. For instance, try saying this sentence 5 different times, each time emphasizing a different word: “I know what he said.” The emphasis makes quite a difference.

Now consider that what “he” said was, “I love you.” How would you say “I know what he said”? Certainly with tenderness, love, and maybe even awe.

However, ifrepparttar 126122 person who said “I love you” was someone you despised, you would say “I know what he said” with resignation, or pity, or maybe even disdain.

Now consider what “he” said was that you wererepparttar 126123 one solely responsible forrepparttar 126124 demise ofrepparttar 126125 project. How would you say, “I know what he said”? Agitated, and there’s a big “but” about to follow.

Included in nonverbal communication are tone of voice, pace, posture, proximity (how closerepparttar 126126 person is to you), gestures, facial expressions, and movements (small and large). All ways of communicating besides language.

Nonverbal communication is important because it is less under our conscious control thanrepparttar 126127 words we speak. Therefore it tends to reveal our emotions, whether we intend to or not. After all, there are times when we wouldn’t want someone to know how we “really “ felt.

With practice you can learn to modulate a good bit of your nonverbal communication, but not all of it. For instance, there’s something called “the Adam’s apple jump” that remains involuntary. According to The Nonverbal Dictionary©, this jump ofrepparttar 126128 cartilage inrepparttar 126129 throat is “an unconscious sign of emotional anxiety, embarrassment, or stress.” It meansrepparttar 126130 man doesn’t like what’s going on, or strongly disagrees.

The expansion and contraction ofrepparttar 126131 pupil’s in our eyes is another example of something that’s very hard to control. Our pupils expand when we like something (“let more of this in”) and contract when we do not (“I don’t want to see this”). We do this in response to sunlight, but also to emotional things.

So how do you interpret what’s going on? The first step is to notice change. Ifrepparttar 126132 person’s been sitting in a certain position for quite a while and then shifts dramatically, something has happened you need to take note of. However, here’srepparttar 126133 tricky part. It could be they think you’re lying, it could be they got a cramp in their leg, it could be they love what you’re saying and wanted to move closer (unconsciously), it could be they have to go torepparttar 126134 bathroom, it could be something you said angered them.

Someone told merepparttar 126135 other day how much they liked doing phone work. I agreed with her, saying that it filtered out a lot of distractions. “Yeah,” she said, “all those things I’m imagining that aren’t really going on.”

Senoi Dream Theory

Written by Gary R. Hess

The Senoi Dream Theory is an idea that one can control his/her own dream and in return reach full sexual gratification and reduce fear. This theory became most popular duringrepparttar 1960s but was actually first introduced torepparttar 126119 psychological world in 1953 on "accident" by a man named Carl Jung.

Many Native tribes where known for using dreams as a source for healing and sometimes other aspects of life such as choosing a 'career'. The Senoi were no different. The Senoi were a group of people from Malaysia numbering from 30-45,000 and traveled with just 15-100 people. They did not use dreams as just a source for healing however, but instead for putting dreams into a positive aspect of life and using them to increase human development.

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