How to Spot a Dangerous Man Written by Sandra L. Brown, MA
How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved By: Sandra L. Brown, MA (Author ‘How to Spot a Dangerous Man’)(This article is free to utilize for media as long as it is quoted as it exists, lists authors name and website URL. For more information email sandrabrownma@yahoo.com) Change your choices, change your life! Women erroneously think that a dangerous man is only a violent man. While violent man is indeed one of categories of dangerous men, there are seven others that are often overlooked. These omitted categories are exactly how women get into dangerous relationships. These lapses in information leave women without knowledge to respond to face of dangerousness when he is in their life. Since much of information about ‘what’ makes a man dangerous has not been taught to women, they do not recognize and respond to dangerousness. Most women have learned to ignore their red flags—their biological response system that tells them that something is not quite right. Our research indicated that 100% of women understand red flags, have red flags, and many of them go on to ignore very red flags that can alert them to unsafe relationships. Women sited various reasons for ignoring red flags which included societal training that women should be polite, gender differences that taught them that women are to be hyper-tolerant to less than appealing male behavior, and female role modeling in their childhoods where women in their families tolerated dangerous male behavior, renamed behavior to something less threatening, and then stayed. Overtly lacking in today’s women’s programs are outright names of dangerous diagnosis, labeling of specific dangerous behaviors, and teaching of why dangerousness is not something that can be treated, more less cured. Most women cannot site any elements that make a man ‘incurable.’ They don’t understand that issue of dangerousness is based on a person’s inability to grow or change. And furthermore, they do not know what ‘an inability to grow or change’ looks like or acts like. No wonder record amounts of women are or have been in as many as four to five dangerous man relationships before they changed their patterns. Often only reason change came at all was because of extreme violence and subsequent near death injuries, or death itself. Sadly enough, once a woman has dated one dangerous man her chances of dating even more dramatically increase. This is because one of notable side effects of dating pathologically dangerous men is that women begin to normalize abnormal behavior until dangerous men look normal and are only types of men they date. Even more shocking, women will adapt their own behaviors to pathologically ill man so that his behaviors are less disturbing to her. This results in woman mimicking sick behavior and also learning to tolerate this type of behavior by increasing her negative coping skills which allows her to deny, justify, minimize or in any other way ignore or discount dangerous behavior.
| | Imagine Having $42,000,000 You Can’t Spend!Written by Tony Papajohn
Which lesson would you draw from this?“Crime doesn’t pay?” or “Murphy strikes again?” Here’s a story that could be fiction if it wasn’t true. On Sunday, December 19, 2004, a gang of Belfast, Northern Ireland, robbers initiated a daring 24-hour plan to rob Northern Bank. While holding family members of two executives hostage, they made off with staggering sum of $42,000,000. According to Guinness Book of World Records, this heist rates fourth on all-time list and first for a peacetime haul of currency alone. These were not ordinary crooks. They did their homework and executed their plan with military precision. They wore gloves, masks, overalls, and boots. Police theorize these were burned afterwards. They trimmed their hair short to minimize incriminating DNA forensic evidence. They burned executive’s car commandeered for robbery. However, they did not plan on huge amount of almost exclusively Northern Irish notes.
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