How to Make Hard Decisions

Written by Susan Dunn, Coach

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"In all cases, emotions are humanity's motivator and its omnipresent guide." --Lewis, Amini and Lannon, MDs

"A poem begins as a lump inrepparttar throat, a sense of wrong, a homesickness, a love sickness. It is never a thought to begin with." -- Robert Frost

When you're stuck and can't seem to make a decision, rememberrepparttar 131289 difference between a thought and feeling. We need to sort out what we think from what we feel because our feelings are what best guide our decisions.

We can gather allrepparttar 131290 thoughts, facts and data inrepparttar 131291 world, but we'll never have enough data for important decisions, or even unimportant ones, and ultimately we have to rely on our gut feelings.

"In small matters, trust your head," said Freud, "and in large matters, your heart."

What is a feeling? A feeling is "a lump inrepparttar 131292 throat"--a bodily sensation first, and when we get in touch with how our body is reacting torepparttar 131293 situation at hand, we have a touchstone for what's really going on.

Being Successful & Being Nice

Written by Susan Dunn, M. A.

"If you are successful, you may win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway." -- Mother Teresa

I was surfingrepparttar Internetrepparttar 131287 other day, and since EQ (emotional intelligence) is my field, I was looking at an EQ site. The person, who was an aspiring corporate coach, said, "EQ. It's not soft." What does that have to do withrepparttar 131288 quote from Mother Teresa and what is this all about?

Often people are confused about what's "soft" and what's -- well, whateverrepparttar 131289 opposite of opposite of that is. Essentially it's a question of how to keep boundaries and still be a nice person. That is, "liked". How to succeed and not lose something of value in doing so.

Since Mother Teresa is everyone's favorite candidate for sainthood, perhaps you'll find her statement surprising, as I did. It's also enlightening. This woman, who engaged in good works, manifesting hope in near-hopeless situations, was evidently "hard as nails". Well, come to think of it, she'd have to be. She was clear about her expectations and her boundaries. She looked reality right square inrepparttar 131290 face with that statement, and gives us permission to go ahead and succeed. How else can we help ourselves and others? How else can we make a difference inrepparttar 131291 world and life fulfilling lives?

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