How to Have a Life of Satisfaction. Guaranteed!Written by Dr. Freddy Davis
Satisfaction 100% guaranteed or your money back! That was promise, so you bought product. You’ve been there! You ended up not liking it and decided to send it back. But, when you started return process, you discovered that it cost more to send it back than refund was worth. Ouch! It’s, certainly, bad enough to be dissatisfied with a product that you paid good money for, but it’s even more distressing when dissatisfaction you feel is with your own life. You can’t send that back, even if you wanted to. It’s bad enough when issues you are dealing with make you feel bad, but these kinds of issues affect more than feelings. They affect all of other parts of your life, as well. They affect your relationships, your concentration, your motivation, and even your productivity. Multiply negative things you experience by all of other people around you who are experiencing this same dissatisfaction, and it’s a wonder that anything ever gets done. Now, you can’t straighten up other people’s lives for them, but you can do something about yours. You were created with ability to decide, for yourself, how your life will be. If you are dissatisfied, it’s because you have chosen a path that makes you that way. If you want a new path, you can have it. To help get a handle on this “dissatisfaction” thing, it is useful to understand ways people live their lives. On a basic level we can divide people into three groups. The first group are “scum.” This is not meant to be a characterization of innate value of these individuals. They are not beyond hope. But it is an accurate description of lifestyle they have chosen. Relatively speaking, this is a small group, but they are ones who become criminal element, gang bangers, sexual perverts, and like. No doubt there have been environmental factors that influenced them to move in a direction that brought them to such a low place in life, but no one held a gun to their head and made them that way. There was a point in time when they crossed a line and allowed their life to go in that direction, and they will continue to do so until they decide to go a different way.
| | Four Keys to HappinessWritten by Jerry Lopper
Each human being strives to be happy. Only our needs for survival and safety are stronger. Since most of us able to receive this article have sufficient food, clothing, and shelter, it’s safe to say that we’re spending much of our time and energy seeking happiness.Consider these four keys to increased happiness. 1. Examine your fundamental belief about happiness. Do you expect to be happy? I once overheard two young people talking. One young man said to other, "I never expect anything good to happen, that way I’m never disappointed." This young person traded his hopes of happy life events for certainty of avoiding disappointment. Listen to lunch table talk of those around you-perhaps even your own talk-do you hear expectations of happiness? There is much social research-as well as spiritual teaching- supporting theory that we get what we expect. Expect to be happy and you will be. Expect to be unhappy and that, too, will come to you. So first key to your happiness is that you must believe that happiness is possible for you. If this is too difficult a belief based on where you are now, then accept that happiness is coming soon. You must begin your quest for happiness with a positive foundation. At very least, make a bargain with yourself. For thirty days, allow yourself to believe happiness is not only possible, but on way. You have nothing to lose, so give it a try. 2. Find three things to appreciate at start and end of each day. This second key to happiness is all about recognizing that which you already have. Even dreariest of days and most onerous life circumstances have some positive aspects. Start your day by finding three things to appreciate. This can be as basic as appreciating that you woke up to another day and you’re alive. Appreciate weather, not just a sunny day, but also a cloudy day. See beauty in a rain or snow storm. Appreciate your job if you have one, even if you dislike it. Appreciate your car, even if it’s a clunker. Find three things for which you can summon up an appreciative mood. At end of day, repeat this process. This time focus your appreciation on three events of day. Something good must have happened to you today-after all, you’re still alive. Appreciate something new you learned today, even if it was that you can survive a dressing down by an irate customer. Appreciate welcome you received from your spouse, child, or pet, safety of your home, or that you have food for dinner. 3. Accept, change, or separate from that which prevents your happiness. Don’t dwell on sources of unhappiness in your life, but do notice them. The third key is to make conscious decision to do one of only three things you can ever do to change a source of unhappiness-fully accept it, work to change it, or separate from it. These are your choices unless you really don’t want a change-the choice to remain unhappy so you can feel victim is also available. Many people choose this one.
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