How to Coach YourselfWritten by David Wood
Some people are not in a position to work with a coach right now. Some are stretched financially, while some are still using “lone ranger” method. Other people might be uncertain about trying something new. So here is a brief, simple process I often use with clients that you can apply to you own situation i.e. coach yourself! And at end of article I will mention how you can go even further than this using a professional coach. STEP 1) Clarify your goal Some of us are not moving forward simply because we have not set a goal that inspires us! Make it specific e.g. 20% increase in income by January 1. And you can stretch yourself, but keep it realistic. If you’re blocked, schedule creative time to play with ideas. Dream, cry, challenge. Ask someone. Create it! Don’t get hung up on ‘right’ goal, just pick something exciting that takes your fancy – then trust yourself, and move to Step 2). STEP 2) Plan What overall strategy(s) will you use? For example, to lose weight, will your strategy be dietary, exercise based, or a combination? To increase income will you increase your knowledge, switch employers, network, or improve performance. For this stage you will also set your milestones to achieve along way, with deadlines attached (say every 3-6 months). Also list tasks to achieve along way in between milestones.
| | Time to Risk MoreWritten by David Wood
(Note to reader: As always, of course you need to be willing to take all consequences of your actions.) 100 people aged 100 were asked: “What do you regret most? What would you do differently?” The majority answered: “I wish I had risked more”. We regret things we don't do, far more than things we do. Fear STOPS us living. We get a sense of security.... which can be upset at any moment anyway. Control is an illusion - we can't control events. So it’s a sad joke on us humans that people who try hardest to live in their comfort zones get upset most. Once we accept that we can’t control life, and that comfort is not very fulfilling, we are free to risk. What can happen? Rejection, moving into a smaller home, losing our partner, breaking an arm, losing a job we like etc. But above all we fear looking silly, foolish, or failing at something. What would your life be like if for past 10 years you had lived without fear? What if life is a game, and we've forgotten? We attach significance to everything - no I can't ask her out because XXXX, I shouldn't apply for that job - I wouldn't get it. I'm not going to take singing lessons - I'm not any good. If you feel you are at risk of regretting not fully living your life when you lie on your death bed, I invite you to complete following exercise:
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