How to Choose the Right Man Using Your EQWritten by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach
To maximize your chances of finding right man for you, apply your Emotional Intelligence (EQ). Approach it with both your brain and your heart. It’s an important decision that will affect rest of your life. Here's LOW EQ way to do it: 1.Choosing obvious ones to avoid: addicts, child abusers, chronic gamblers, felons, “boys”, etc. If you keep falling in love with wrong type of guy, you need help. Please seek it. 2.Choosing by sexual attraction alone. That’s a choice your reptilian brain is making which is to say not a choice at all. “Choosing” implies weighing alternatives and being rational. In no area of your life do you want your reptilian brain in charge. It doesn’t “think.” 3.Choosing by externals alone. It’s nice if he’s handsome, but not if he’s just another pretty face. Are you choosing a 37’ powerboat instead of a man who owns one? His face will change; his toys may disappear. It’s “for better or for worse,” not “for as long as he can buy me Fendi handbags.” 4.Rushing. Date him long enough to go through actual situations that test what you can’t see and touch – his values, priorities, manners, morals, and interests. At first you’ll go to drag races, WFW matches and duck hunting just to be with him, right? Do you really see yourself doing these things every weekend for rest of your life? By same token, is he being nice to your kids just to get to you? Is he willing to go shopping with you and to art museums? Only time will tell. 5.Rushing. Give it time so he can sort out his feelings. Men tend to go from desire to action without thinking in between. This is why we see them make such poor choices in women, and then do it again. You may be sure, but is he? 6.Rushing. You need time because even a workaholic will give you attention 24/7 at first. Only 6 months down line will you discover that once he’s “got you,” he compartmentalizes you. Work comes first, then his golf. He’ll summon you when it’s your turn.
| | ODD JOBSWritten by Victoria Elizabeth
Copyright (c) Victoria Elizabeth 2004. All rights reserved.ODD JOBS Or, what to do while "Waiting for Godot"... While some may say, "the world is going to Hades in a handbasket", I say "piffle!" First, Hades isn't even on my "To Do" list for today or, for that matter, tomorrow. Second, "handbaskets" are only for those who enjoy carrying coals to Newcastle or some other Fool's Paradise. Anyway, I prefer to think that life is what you make of it. So, enjoy every minute. And, when you've finished your "bowl full of cherries", fear not, there will be plenty of "pleasure pits" to enjoy, just mark my words! Not one to gather moss under my feet, or pout about what to do while "Waiting for Godot", I've decided to share with you some odd jobs I've had to justify my existence, (but more importantly ...my jam and peanut butter). You'll note that none of positions mentioned below have appeared in newspaper under heading, "jobs wanted". That's not surprising. After all, why would women want to reveal how to preserve their sanity amidst chaos and clutter left behind by magnificent men from Mars? (But that's another tangential story, worth at least one chapter in my next book, "Cautionary Tales from Martian Caves". Where was I? ...ah yes, "odd" jobs: -- Whine & Cheese Party Hostess -- Wing-It & Wet-Nurse Wonder Woman -- Lost-and-Found Monitor & Bumbershoot Locator -- Little Rubber Ducky Fundraiser -- Fly-Swatting Summer Camp Counsellor -- Bruxism Buster and Tooth Fairy Stand-In -- Accredited Waffle Stomper & Bucker-Upper -- Out-On-A-Limb Branch Coordinator
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