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2. Evolve optimism.

This EQ competency facilitates all others and accounts more for your success and happiness than any other. Optimistic people live longer, healthier lives, enjoy their successes more, and are more likely to fulfill their potential (Martin Seligman, Ph.D.). You can learn optimism.

3. Develop your flexibility.

Many excellent and satisfying goals are reached while you're on way to something else.

4. Use your interpersonal skills.

It isn't what you know so much as who you know. Develop strong bonds and other people will help you get where you want to go.

5. Build your resilience.

The minute you connect unknown with known, you have a relationship.

Is someone trying to teach you something? Do they say put Tab A in Slot A. Good. You know what Tab A is, and you know what Slot A is.

What happens when they say, take discuspet and put it in Slot A? Hm.

What if they say, take discuspet and put it in mascuspet? Yikes! You know what that means, don't you? You are in wrong class!

No, I'm just teasing. When someone teaches you something and they say discuspet -- or any word you don't know -- stop them right there. Ask them what a discuspet is, and if you understood everything they said, then let them proceed.

Now, you know what a discuspet is. They say, take discuspet and put it in mascuspet. Whoa! Stop them right there and ask what a mascuspet is. They tell you and now you understand. Who said learning was hard?

Oh, you say? What happens when they answer your question saying that a mascuspet is a third of a tricuspet. Whoa! This is getting complicated. Do you think you can handle it?