Everything seems to go right for these people and they always seem to present themselves as calm, collected and successful in everything they do.

If you are paying attention you have probably noticed that these self confident people usually are successful in every area of their lives.

Is this because they are smarter? Or is it because they have more money? Maybe they are just lucky?

The reality is that none of these things are necessarily true. Self confident people understand impact of believing in themselves and relying on their abilities.

This confidence ultimately creates opportunities for success and with each new success another self confidence building block is put into place. Success builds upon success reinforcing self confidence with each new achievement.

Self confident people perceive themselves as able to achieve those things they set out to do and this perception creates reality in their lives.

Yes, perception creates reality. You can become person you want to be. You have heard it said that if you can believe it you can achieve it.

So start believing in yourself, acting on that belief and you will start building self confidence in your life.

“Seemed” is operative word here. Many years of reflection and study have taught me that lack of meaning is always a lack of wisdom. Everything I have learned and that has turned bitter and suicidal young man that I was into a mature and serene life lover is what I impart to my reader.

Listed below are some of major points in my book:

1. There can be no contentment without acceptance of limits of reality, within which excellence and joy are possible, but not perfection and infinite happiness. Furthermore, there can be no contentment without courage to pursue excellence and joy persistently, against failures and misfortunes. That is to say, if life is to be compared to a car ride, we had better be in driver's seat and move forward at a good pace, but without haste, while steering in right direction. We are responsible for our lives, even though we do not control everything, far from it.

Above all, our minds are at our command and determine our moods. Independently of circumstances and results, contentment follows from positive thinking and positive action – though admittedly it is not possible without circumstances and results being at least favorable enough to permit thinking and action.

2. In pursuit of excellence and joy, awareness of our adaptability is paramount. Change, and sometimes extensive and traumatic change, is part and parcel of life. Fortunately, we are able to adapt to this change. That is, favorable habits we develop within relatively stable circumstances – for example eating, working, or dating habits that are conducive to our happiness – do not truly define individuals we are. What does define them so is our innate ability to acquire favorable habits whatever circumstances (provided latter are not so bad that they cannot be turned to good account). In a word, we are by nature adaptable, just as world is by nature changeable.