How do you define happiness?Written by David Leonhardt
I ran a contest in "Your Daily Dose of Happiness" to see how people define happiness. I was stunned to discover that I am only person who defines happiness as an extra helping of cheesecake.
There were other shockers, too.
We know that money can't buy happiness ... except, of course, when we are flat broke. But I figured several people would define happiness, at least in part, as a bulging bank vault or "financial freedom". Just three people cited money in their definitions of happiness.
I also figured many people would cite health as part of their definition of happiness, as in "health, wealth, and happiness". But only four people mentioned health.
No health? No wealth? How do people define happiness?
The top rated mention goes to family. It seems that we might be flat broke and deathly ill, but a loving family will make us happy just same.
Altruism and kindness are also key. It seems we smile by making others smile. Isn't that nice? No health and no wealth. Just smile.
Faith scores big, too. This works out very well, because we can ask our loving family to pray for a speedy recovery and a big win in El Gordo next month (assuming we recover first).
What does this mean? It means spammers have it all wrong. They keep sending us useless emails about making money.
A typical spam message says, "Get insider secrets to making millions on Internet. I will give you these valuable secrets for peanuts just because I love your smile so much. You could make $5,433 in next hour if you act now. Hurry. Don't wait. This is real thing. You can trust me. All others are just scammers."
Instead, spammers should be sending offers like, "Get insider secret to building a loving family on Internet. I will give you these valuable secrets for peanuts (and a big virtual hug) just because I love your smile so much. You could love your kids, spouses, uncles, parents, pets Ė anybody! Ė in next hour if you act now. Hurry. Don't wait. This is real thing. You can trust me. All others are just family planners."
Maybe I Can Drive That CarWritten by Steve J. Murray
"Maybe I Can Drive That Car"
-Getting in and driving your recovery vehicle.
An Alcohol and Drug Addiction Survival Kit
for alcoholics, addicts, professionals, and normiesÖ by Steve J. Murray, NI-COR President and Founder
This book is not about using fifty cent words. I could expound upon extrapolation of eclectic within dialectic- but I would lose most of you, including myself. This book is about real life, real words, and real recovery. Recovery is like learning to drive for first time. In beginning we are nervous, hesitant, and make all kinds of errors. We over steer, under steer, hit brakes too hard, punch accelerator, run over curbs, scare little old ladies off sidewalks, and generally donít think we have done so well. What appears to be a failure is really start of what will become a skilled driver- one that will, through practice, be a life of amazing exploration, growth, and peace. Being unsure and unsteady is all normal; especially in beginning. Being scared behind wheel is alright. Sometimes we are growing, but donít realize it because of way we are feeling. On positive side, one benefit of this period is fact that you will probably not wreck car because of your heightened sense of awareness- it is when we get too confident in our driving abilities that caution is abandoned, and then we wreck car because of our complacency. To be a good driver, you must practice, practice, practice. To be good at recovery, you must practice, practice, practice. This book will teach you how to live life free of alcoholism and drug addiction. Hence we begin our analogy of driving and recovery.
Chapter One- Alcoholism
Are you an alcoholic? Think about times you were behind wheel, or as a passenger in a vehicle while intoxicated. Pretty scary huh? I can remember driving one time and my friend asked me if I was okay to drive. I replied with, ďI canít see windshield.Ē
We all have our tales of drinking and lived to tell about them. But are we really living. The following chapter will deal mostly with tales that should have been recognized as insane behaviors- clues to a problem that were ignored. How can you be fully functional and yet be in a blackout?
How many have driven from one place to another, only to realize that they canít remember last four or five blocks. Did we run a red light? Perhaps we cut someone off, or driven too fast. So now we realize that it is possible to be fully functional, but not remember a thing about our actions. Imagine driving for three or four days and feeling same way as you did that time you drove four blocks and canít remember. This is what it is like in a blackout. The person is fully functional, but comes out of blackout not remembering what they did, or where they went. I know of one habitual blackout drinker who would come out of his blackouts in a different part of country. Imagine starting out drinking in Arizona, and then waking up in Florida three days later. Imagine not knowing how you got there, or whose path you crossed, what you did and said. Not to mention if you committed a crime along way.