How To Write a Romantic Love Letter

Written by Renee Michaels

Doesrepparttar thought of writing a love letter or poem automatically reduce your vocabulary to a 5-year-oldís level? Well, believe it or not, thatís a great place to begin!

Kids speak straight fromrepparttar 121999 heart. They donít worry about tripping overrepparttar 122000 right words, they only know how to say what they want usingrepparttar 122001 most simple language. As adults, we let our thinking get inrepparttar 122002 way of our emotions and worry aboutrepparttar 122003 details before we haverepparttar 122004 big picture.

Dream up a love letter You don't need a sample love letter or a free printable love letter. You're going to dream up your own romantic love letters.

An indispensible tool for writing is a thesaurus. You'll find many free ones online; they're a wonderful aid to finding exactlyrepparttar 122005 right word. Have paper and pen ready to jot notes, but forget about words and writing for now.

Sit in a comfortable chair or lie down, let your shoulders drop and take a few deep breaths, at least 5 or 6. Inhale deeply, feelrepparttar 122006 air going torepparttar 122007 bottom of your belly, then slowly exhale as you pull in your abdomen.

Close your eyes and begin visualizingrepparttar 122008 one you love and create a movie of you slowly running your eyes over every inch of their body. What do you especially appreciate? View their eyes looking back at you, run your fingers through their hair, caress their cheek and softly brush your lips against theirs. Seerepparttar 122009 smile of joy,repparttar 122010 tilt of their head towards you, their arms around you. Feel their heart beat against yours and take inrepparttar 122011 warmth of their skin. Watch as they run towards you, eager to rush into your arms. How do you feel?

Let your movie continue running. Pull outrepparttar 122012 memories of when you had a lot of fun and laughter, your most passionate times together or when you were sad and your love silently held you close. Which of them brings uprepparttar 122013 most emotion in you? What do you see, hear, taste, touch and feel? What are they wearing . . . or not wearing?

Linger a bit longer; letrepparttar 122014 feelings run throughout your entire body. Are you getting little tingles running up and down your spine?

First love letter steps The most emotional memories arerepparttar 122015 ones that will fuel your love letter or poem. You should be in a better mood for writing, relaxed and smiling. Take a few more deep breaths before you begin to write.

You donít have to get up; this might put you into ďthinkingĒ mode. Begin jotting notes down. Slowly replay each movie and describerepparttar 122016 scenes with short, simple phrases, as a child would. Later on, you can link these shorter phrases into longer ones, but for now, you want to capture allrepparttar 122017 sensations, physically and emotionally, that being withrepparttar 122018 one you love means to you.

Relationship Deal-breakers

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long asrepparttar author resource box atrepparttar 121998 end is included, with hyperlinks. Notification of publication would be appreciated.

Title: Relationship Deal-breakers Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: Copyright: © 2005 by Margaret Paul URL: Word Count: 802 Category: Relationships

Relationship Deal-breakers By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Inrepparttar 121999 37 years that I have been counseling couples, I have discovered that there are only a few issues that are true relationship deal-breakers. Many ofrepparttar 122000 issues that tear relationships apart are not actual deal-breakers. Rather, most divorces and breakups arerepparttar 122001 result of one or both partnerís unwillingness to learn fromrepparttar 122002 conflicts that exist in all primary relationships. But some conflicts and differences are actual deal-breakers.


Early in my career as a psychotherapist, I worked with Mary and Cal. Mary and Cal met when Mary was 38 and Cal was 47. Cal had been married before and had two adult children, while Mary had never been married. Cal made it very clear to Mary that he did not, under any circumstances, want more children. Mary seemed to accept this, but secretly hoped to change Calís mind once they were married.

A year after they were married, Mary brought uprepparttar 122003 issue of having children. Cal was appalled. He felt angry, trapped and betrayed by Maryís secret hope, as well as by her dishonesty. Mary begged and pleaded, hoping Calís love for her would soften his position. But he stayed committed to his decision not to have any more children.

This situation has a very sad ending. Mary was devastated. She loved Cal, but having children was actually extremely important to her. She didnít want to leave him and she couldnít let go of wanting a child. The stress ofrepparttar 122004 situation eventually eroded her immune system and she died of ovarian cancer of few years after bringing uprepparttar 122005 baby issue.

I learned a lot from Mary and Calís experience. I learned thatrepparttar 122006 baby issue is a deal-breaker. It is not healthy for someone who really wants a baby to give that up, and it is not healthy for someone who does not want a baby to go along with having one. This deep and basic issue needs to be dealt with head-on, early in a relationship, before people move ahead with commitment and marriage.


Rhonda and Fred fell in love in their late 30ís. Each had jobs that they loved and that were very important to them. Fred wasrepparttar 122007 vice-president of a large company, while Rhonda had a flourishing practice as a pediatrician. They both lived in Los Angeles. All seemed fine until an incredible opportunity opened up for Fred Ė one that he had always dreamed of. The problem was that it meant moving to New York. Fredís work became a deal-breaker.

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