Contrary to what you see every week on 'Sex and City', women are complete opposite of men in that, more *anonymous* sexual encounter, LESS gratifying they find it to be.
Unlike fictional uber-slut Miranda, satisfying sex does not begin and end with quest to find someone new to have an orgasm with. For vast majority of women, MORE connected they feel to their partner, more overwhelming total sexual experience is for them.
Just reverse of typical male thinking, right? Men are intensely turned on by thought of having sex with a woman for that very FIRST time, or by scoring a one-night stand with a perfect stranger, or perhaps fantasizing about being in a porno movie and having wanton sex with dozens of hot women he hardly knows. The common link between all these scenarios is that there is NO emotional bonding involved. Hell, there's hardly even an exchange of names! For man, more anonymous sex more *exciting* idea of conquest.
How two genders make use of (and even exploit) this knowledge of each other's romantic weakness, however, is an entirely DIFFERENT story. Women know exactly how to turn men on by manipulating this hardwired 'quirk' in their character that absolves them of need to actually know anything about a woman who has triggered his desire to mate. How? Simply by pushing this uniquely male "anonymous sex" button long and often... by acting sexy AND remaining emotionally aloof at same time. The stripper, table dancer, whore. The molten hot stranger. Any persona will do -- and all are quite useful when their design is seduction!
Men, on other hand, seem mostly clueless about how to turn tables and pull off same trick. In fact, prevailing feeling is that female lust is such a mysterious and unfathomable 'holy grail' so rarely encountered in real life that it's taken on a kind of mythical quality. I guess some women just have it for certain men... and not for others, and there's no understanding reasons why.
But can female lust be triggered by deliberate actions of a man? I say absolutely yes. Women get sexually turned on just as men do of course, but -- owing to differences in reproductive biology -- by a completely different set of mental processes. Men go for a VISUAL look that suggests youthfulness and thus fertility. But females aren't interested in a man's age so much because males remain virile well into later part of their lifespan.