"How to Overcome Fear" by Dr. Joe Vitale, Author The Attractor Factor - www.AttractorFactor.com

I'm in Chicago attending a Dan Kennedy event. At first break a young man stops me, saying he is one of my subscribers and a big fan. I'm flattered. We talk. During brief conversation, he confesses that fear is what stops him from achieving anything.

Interesting. Just that very morning I had breakfast with Paul Hartunian, famous publicity expert, when he told me, "There is no such thing as fear."

"There isn't?" I asked Paul.

"No. You are born with only two fears," Paul explained. "The fear of loud noises and fear of falling. You lose those early on. Any other fears are created by you. They aren't real." "How do you get rid of fear?"

"Stop it."

"Stop it?"

"Just stop it," Paul said. "Say you have a fear of bridges. If I put one million dollars in cash on other side and said you could have it if you walked across bridge, nude, in front of a crowd of people, you'd do it. Why? Because reward is greater than pain. Make rewards greater and fears will vanish."

I told young man before me same thing.

Contrary to what you see every week on 'Sex and City', women are complete opposite of men in that, more *anonymous* sexual encounter, LESS gratifying they find it to be.

Unlike fictional uber-slut Miranda, satisfying sex does not begin and end with quest to find someone new to have an orgasm with. For vast majority of women, MORE connected they feel to their partner, more overwhelming total sexual experience is for them.

Just reverse of typical male thinking, right? Men are intensely turned on by thought of having sex with a woman for that very FIRST time, or by scoring a one-night stand with a perfect stranger, or perhaps fantasizing about being in a porno movie and having wanton sex with dozens of hot women he hardly knows. The common link between all these scenarios is that there is NO emotional bonding involved. Hell, there's hardly even an exchange of names! For man, more anonymous sex more *exciting* idea of conquest.

How two genders make use of (and even exploit) this knowledge of each other's romantic weakness, however, is an entirely DIFFERENT story. Women know exactly how to turn men on by manipulating this hardwired 'quirk' in their character that absolves them of need to actually know anything about a woman who has triggered his desire to mate. How? Simply by pushing this uniquely male "anonymous sex" button long and often... by acting sexy AND remaining emotionally aloof at same time. The stripper, table dancer, whore. The molten hot stranger. Any persona will do -- and all are quite useful when their design is seduction!

Men, on other hand, seem mostly clueless about how to turn tables and pull off same trick. In fact, prevailing feeling is that female lust is such a mysterious and unfathomable 'holy grail' so rarely encountered in real life that it's taken on a kind of mythical quality. I guess some women just have it for certain men... and not for others, and there's no understanding reasons why.