How To Get What You Want...From The People You Want It From

Written by Kathy Gates

Successful feedback is usually associated with improving employee productivity, but feedback is not just for supervisor-employee relationships. Being able to deliver honest, constructive feedback is also vital to healthy relationships at home.

You give feedback to your children, spouse, friends, doctor, and even your hair stylist.

If you run a home based business, you also need to be able to give effective messages to suppliers, customers, marketers, and web-site designers, just to name a few.

Being unable to give feedback successfully could set you up for feeling taken advantage of, frustrated, under- appreciated, and overwhelmed.

Putting these methods into practice will help you provide honest communication that will protect your time and needs, yet even improve your relationships.

1. Successful communication requires that you getrepparttar other person's full attention. Plan your discussion at a time when both parties can focus onrepparttar 101960 situation. Asking your teenager to rethinkrepparttar 101961 way she's spending her money while she's got a rented movie and friends inrepparttar 101962 other room is guaranteed to be ignored. Telling an employee to redo a report as you rush out to a meeting is almost always going to generate hurt feelings. Choose a quiet time, and schedule enough time so that you don't feel obliged to rush throughrepparttar 101963 conversation.

2. Successful communication is on-going, not an out of left-field ambush. When someone does something great, don't assume they know how you feel. Tell them! The same is true for when you need to correct a behavior. "May I make a suggestion" are very valuable words for an on-going dialogue of behavior.

3. Successful communication focuses on behavior, not personalities. People will always respond more readily to facts than fault-finding. Don't make it personal. Always avoid sarcasm or insults. Whether it's negative or positive feedback, connect it to specific examples, which will help takerepparttar 101964 focus offrepparttar 101965 individual and highlightrepparttar 101966 behavior instead. Tell him exactly what he did that was not acceptable, or inrepparttar 101967 reverse help him to continue appropriate behavior by praising his accomplishments.

4. Successful communication will motivate, not discourage individuals. We all feelrepparttar 101968 need to hear from others how we are doing. It's a basis for communication and trust. A discussion resulting in an exchange of ideas and information is always a powerful motivator. Knowing what actions you want, what your goals are, and having a method to give them to you will motivate people to please you. Motivated people have specific goals and look for ways to achieve them, and efficiency is a natural result of that.

Learning from the Stars

Written by Julie Jordan Scott

"You learn something new every day". How many times have you heard that sentence? Chances are, many many many times overrepparttar course of your lifetime you have heard those six words or some similar combination. Sometimes when we have phrases like this repeatedly, we forget or somehow stop hearingrepparttar 101959 significance inrepparttar 101960 message. Usingrepparttar 101961 thesaurus in my word processor, I was able to tap into a list of twelve words which also mean "learn". There are subtle nuances to each word which may giverepparttar 101962 phrase more power or meaning to you. Here isrepparttar 101963 list, which I will give in a form where you will seerepparttar 101964 whole statement repeated,repparttar 101965 only change beingrepparttar 101966 word "LEARN". 1. You absorb something new every day. 2. You acquire something new every day. 3. You ascertain something new every day. 4. You comprehend something new every day. 5. You digest something new every day. 6. You discover something new every day. 7. You divine something new every day. 8. You glean something new every day. 9. You grasp something new every day. 10. You master something new every day. 11. You realize something new every day. 12. You understand something new every day. Which three ofrepparttar 101967 statements touch yourepparttar 101968 most? Which ones ringrepparttar 101969 most true to you? Can you seerepparttar 101970 difference using those three might make in your not only hearing this truth, also knowing it and living it? Inrepparttar 101971 spirit of learning something new every day, notice that inrepparttar 101972 paragraph above I purposefully engaged in using different senses to "speak" to you. I mentioned "touching" "ringing" and "seeing". That technique was used so that people who learn through different sensory experiences would all "learn something new". A lifestyle of "learning" (gleaning, discovering, understanding) something new everyday includes taking

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