How To Find Your REAL Self AgainWritten by Kathy Gates
On surface it seems an odd idea that you could actually be anything other than who you really are. But from time we can talk, we're being programmed to "fit in". We find ourselves conforming in order to please people we love, and who love us. But sometimes that means that you have to suppress what you know is real person inside.
If you're ready to get re-acquainted with someone you haven't seen in a while - yourself - start with these 5 ideas to help you rediscover real you.
1. Quiet noise in your head. You know those voices well, ones that are constantly nagging you to pick up dry cleaning, talk to school teacher, juggle bills, call your mother, keep kids in line, and keep boss happy. With all that noise going on, it will be impossible for you to hear anything above din. This MUST be first step. How do you do that? By setting up systems, simplifying, and establishing enough extras in your life to allow you to operate from a position of abundance, instead of lack.
2. Learn how to- and practice - thinking about yourself in healthy ways. In order to do that, you must first BELIEVE that you are valuable, and your Real Self has something to offer world. Since you talk to yourself more than everyone else in your life combined, --that's a lot of talk!-it's up to YOU to establish healthy communication in your thinking. Consciously listen to how you talk to yourself; write down unhealthy things you say; challenge them; and replace them with facts. Talk: "You never do anything right." Challenge: "Of course I do things right. I did (example) right. I did (example) right. This time, I just made a mistake. I'll learn from it and have better success next time."
7 Ways To Push Past ProcrastinationWritten by Kathy Gates
When you find yourself procrastinating on a particular project, or just delaying in general, it is always a good idea to ask why. If a task is difficult, it's difficult for a reason; you need to know what that reason is, even if it's just a nagging habit you've developed.
Yes, procrastination can be just a habit, and sometimes society even rewards you for delaying action, such as late season Christmas bargains. It's not always a bad thing to look before you leap - no one wants to make a poorly thought out decision. But if delaying is causing problems in your life, reason could be due to anger, fear, or denial.
The next time you find yourself procrastinating on a particular project, ask yourself these questions.
1. Do I find it hard to just get started? The hardest thing about everyday tasks is getting started on them. It's kind of like pushing a stalled car...once you get going, everything rolls right along. Push Past Procrastination by setting up systems that help you. For example, I had a jigsaw puzzle that I just couldn't seem to finish even though I wanted to use it as part of my wall decoration. I finally set it up on its own little table, then moved table out into traffic pattern where I would see it constantly. That got my attention, and got puzzle finished.
2. Do I feel qualified to perform task? Am I in over my head? Being afraid that you will fail at something is a sure-fire way to get you to stop before you've started. Push Past Procrastination by being honest with yourself about your level of training in that particular task. Don't complain or delay. Simply request help from someone qualified who can help you learn.
3. Is this something I really want? I was having trouble finishing painting my kitchen and I couldn't figure out why. As I started to really think about it, I realized that I didn't' really like color. Martha Stewart said I ought to like it, but I just didn't. As soon as I mentally fired Martha and got color I wanted, I finished in no time. Push Past Procrastination by telling truth about what you really want out of life. Live as star of your own life, not as an extra in someone else's.