You learn all about deciding what you want and how to get it. However you also need specific guidelines for dealing with situations when nothing seems to be working despite your best efforts.

One of hardest things to deal with is fact that some people will dislike you no matter how wonderful you are. The reasons why someone does not like you may be incorrect, unfair or unjust. Yet they still affect how that person deals with you.

I recommend a three step plan to deal with this challenge:

1 Penetrate The Peer Group

Find peer group of person who dislikes you and seek to make friends with people in this group. Build a positive reputation with these people one at a time and your public image will shift in eyes of person who you are having trouble with.

This is like doing your own P.R. campaign directly to people who have most influence over opinions of person who dislikes you. Peer group pressure is a powerful way to change perceptions of a group member.

2 Find Reasons To Like The Person

When someone clearly dislikes you what usually happens next? You start to actively dislike that person in return!

It becomes a feeding frenzy that can spiral out of control very quickly. The other person sees your negative reaction to them and responds accordingly. You feel and see how much disdain they have for you and you respond with more hate. Like a game of tennis negative feelings bounce back and forth.

1 Question your assumptions about other person

Perhaps breakdown in communication is based on rumors that have no basis in reality. You may be unfairly judging other person and filtering every word he speaks because of a false image of who he really is.

Have you ever harshly judged someone and found out later you were completely in wrong? Make sure you are not making same mistake again.

2 Ask for clarification

Ask other person to fill in gaps that are causing you to lose your grasp on train of thought.

Asking questions demonstrates your interest in a positive outcome and is to be encouraged. Never worry about looking stupid for asking for more information. The smartest people value information and are always ready to ask for more.

3 Are you really listening?

Check that you are really paying attention and not just pretending to be. Change your posture, pay close attention to how other person is talking and demand more of yourself.

Become more attentive simply by choosing to be.

4 Address issue directly