How To Deal With People Who Dislike You

Written by Peter Murphy


When you read books on personal development and articles about making your life betterrepparttar emphasis is generally onrepparttar 129657 positive.

You learn all about deciding what you want and how to get it. However you also need specific guidelines for dealing with situations when nothing seems to be working despite your best efforts.

One ofrepparttar 129658 hardest things to deal with isrepparttar 129659 fact that some people will dislike you no matter how wonderful you are. The reasons why someone does not like you may be incorrect, unfair or unjust. Yet they still affect how that person deals with you.

I recommend a three step plan to deal with this challenge:

1 Penetrate The Peer Group

Findrepparttar 129660 peer group ofrepparttar 129661 person who dislikes you and seek to make friends with people in this group. Build a positive reputation with these people one at a time and your public image will shift inrepparttar 129662 eyes ofrepparttar 129663 person who you are having trouble with.

This is like doing your own P.R. campaign directly torepparttar 129664 people who haverepparttar 129665 most influence overrepparttar 129666 opinions ofrepparttar 129667 person who dislikes you. Peer group pressure is a powerful way to changerepparttar 129668 perceptions of a group member.

2 Find Reasons To Like The Person

When someone clearly dislikes you what usually happens next? You start to actively dislike that person in return!

It becomes a feeding frenzy that can spiral out of control very quickly. The other person sees your negative reaction to them and responds accordingly. You feel and see how much disdain they have for you and you respond with more hate. Like a game of tennisrepparttar 129669 negative feelings bounce back and forth.

You can break this cycle. How? By deciding to find ways to likerepparttar 129670 person. Here are two ways to get started:

How to Turn Around A Sinking Conversation - 7 Tips

Written by Peter Murphy


When a conversation is not working out there isrepparttar potential for massive frustration or a breakthrough depending on how you look at it.

1 Question your assumptions aboutrepparttar 129655 other person

Perhapsrepparttar 129656 breakdown in communication is based on rumors that have no basis in reality. You may be unfairly judgingrepparttar 129657 other person and filtering every word he speaks because of a false image of who he really is.

Have you ever harshly judged someone and found out later you were completely inrepparttar 129658 wrong? Make sure you are not makingrepparttar 129659 same mistake again.

2 Ask for clarification

Askrepparttar 129660 other person to fill inrepparttar 129661 gaps that are causing you to lose your grasp onrepparttar 129662 train of thought.

Asking questions demonstrates your interest in a positive outcome and is to be encouraged. Never worry about looking stupid for asking for more information. The smartest people value information and are always ready to ask for more.

3 Are you really listening?

Check that you are really paying attention and not just pretending to be. Change your posture, pay close attention to howrepparttar 129663 other person is talking and demand more of yourself.

Become more attentive simply by choosing to be.

4 Addressrepparttar 129664 issue directly

Be direct and say aloud that you feelrepparttar 129665 conversation is not working out. Oftenrepparttar 129666 other person will agree and togetherrepparttar 129667 two of you will be able to work to correctrepparttar 129668 situation.

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