Almost everyone knows difference between right and wrong, but do we all apply thinking with consequential logic before committing our wrongs? Probably not. The reasons are plenty, but simply put, many of us are too lazy or careless.

If it is lazy, that can be more easily fixed than that of careless. Lazy is just that, lazy. Working a little extra hard by churning brain with logic before minor or major decisions creates a more seamless living environment for not only yourself, but everyone around you.

Careless is more difficult to fix because person is caring less about something that requires someone to yield more care. This is a fundamental disregard for situation or an inadequate comprehension of dynamics of that particular situation or decision.

Usually people other than yourself are involved, assuming you have careless tendencies. Let me clarify with an example: You are on a roof reshingling with a working partner, but you are a level below him/her and this person would like to get down to your level. They ask if you could set step ladder up so they can get down, so you do. By not holding ladder tightly as person descends, they fall and die.

This is a blatant example of disregarding someone else’s safety by not caring enough. It could also be construed as lazy; however, in this situation it is more likely that carelessness trumps laziness big time.

So, how is it that we deal with these types of people to level perverbial playing field?

Well, for a moment, lets just consider problematic issues that these types of people have so as to better understand what approach to take.

In being manipulative, one would only need to look at why and what, not how, because how is obvious. How do they do it? They use words as their arsenal for control.

One should understand that manipulative people are generally control freaks who need to have people they attempt to control conform to their ideology. By leveraging control over a particular situation, they satisfy craving to fill that void of not having personal control, therefore obtaining it from another person.

It is quite obvious that always trying to tilt scales for yourself by being manipulative reflects a security problem in yourself. It’s simple! If you do not feel secure with yourself, than you are insecure. Ah...but to what degree you may ask, do you have to be so insecure that you always attempt to obtain control and security elsewhere?

Insecurities are in us all. We all feel vulnerable at times in any given situation, but what would propel us to be so insecure that we need to control others in our environment?

This question could be answered differently for almost every manipulative person because what drives us to manipulate might be extremely deep-seated in one, where in another it is seated quite shallow.

Most people have heard in one place or another; you can only control certain things in life, and much of other stuff you need to just let chips fall where they may.