If I were to ask you
percentage of time you spend thinking about what you don’t want, what would it be? And
percentage of time thinking about what you do want?Experience with my clients has shown me that most of us spend a lot more time thinking about what we don’t want. Some examples when it comes to our job include:
qI hate my commute. qI am not challenged at my job. qI wish I didn’t have to travel so much. qI miss my family. qI have no energy. qI don’t get paid enough.
And
list goes on and on. By
end of
day we have spent on average 70-80% of
day thinking about things we don’t want.
Now, what happens when we put our attention on things? They usually come to pass right? Have you ever been really clear on something you wanted, thought about it, took action to get it and finally got it?
Well
same works for
things you don’t want. The more attention you put on them,
more you get of them. If you want to get out of work that doesn’t satisfy you and find work that does, then you will need to take your attention off of
things that keep you dissatisfied and put it on what you think will satisfy you.
The best way to do that?
Turn your “don’t wants” into “do wants” - The list above is all about things you don’t want, simply flip them into things you do:
qI hate my commute becomes, “I want a short commute.” qI am not challenged at my job becomes, “I want a job that challenges me.” qI wish I didn’t have to travel so much becomes “I want a job where I don’t have to travel so much.” qI miss my family becomes, “I want a job that has better work life balance.” qI have no energy becomes, “I want a job that gives me energy.” qI don’t get paid enough becomes, “I want a job that pays me what I think I’m worth.”