How I Get Joy as a Value

Written by Miami Phillips


*Inrepparttar last couple of months, I have been fortunate to be able to sharerepparttar 130428 troubles of others. Why fortunate? I believe thatrepparttar 130429 ability to be very close torepparttar 130430 pain and fears of others has allowed me to realize how utterly fantastic my life is.

*As with many of us, I am always able to find something that might not be going just as I would like, something I wish to be better, or different, or a whole other something. But as I watch others, and listen torepparttar 130431 challenges they face andrepparttar 130432 problems they are experiencing, my world seems almost perfect. In fact, my life is perfect.

*My belief is thatrepparttar 130433 more life throws at you,repparttar 130434 more crucial it is to work on living inrepparttar 130435 present moment. I believe our lives are pieces of a puzzle. But we’re not given ALLrepparttar 130436 pieces nor are we given a picture ofrepparttar 130437 puzzle to help us put it together or to show us what it should look like once complete. Our job is to fitrepparttar 130438 pieces we are given togetherrepparttar 130439 best we can and work with what we have until more pieces arrive.

*Isn't that fascinating!?

*I have found that I am more and more able to work patiently withrepparttar 130440 pieces I am given knowing thatrepparttar 130441 rest are on their way. Furthermore, I have faith that when those pieces do arrive, they will be forrepparttar 130442 best, even though it might not look that way atrepparttar 130443 time.

*Thinking this way has had several wonderful benefits for me. I am much calmer inrepparttar 130444 face of what might appear as an awful situation. I can literally stop and strike up a conversation with my Self…"Isn't this fascinating?" "I wonder what is really going on here that I am not seeing yet?"

*Almost every time I do that, I find gold! Usually,repparttar 130445 reason I get into challenges is because there is a lesson for me. The trick is finding it! This challenge brings me joy. I always thought that joy was what you got when you found happiness.

What is Coaching? What Do Coaches Do?

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ Coach


In a relatively new field with few barriers to entry, there are a lot of questions. Is coaching some kind of therapy by another name? Is it like talking to your best friend? Why would someone hire a coach? What do you use a coach for? What might a coach do for me?

Whilerepparttar field is becoming familiar, I still talk to audiences on cruises where no one has heard of coaching.

The best analogy I can think of isrepparttar 130427 sports coach. No athlete gets to their peak without a good coach. The athletic coach is someone who understandsrepparttar 130428 physical, emotional and mental skills needed for peak performance, and is able to teach these skills to someone else, shaping it torepparttar 130429 particular and unique situation ofrepparttar 130430 athlete involved. One person needs to work on their backhand. Another needs to learn to control his temper.

When you think about it, when you’re faced with something new what do you do? Say you’ve been diagnosed with some disease you don’t know anything about. Or say you’d just been told your house had some problem you didn’t know anything about. If you’re like me, you’d turn torepparttar 130431 experts inrepparttar 130432 fields, doctors and engineers, but sooner or later, you’ll start trying to find people who’ve actually experienced what you’re going through.

Someone who has beaten breast cancer may be able to tell you some very useful things about coping with it from all aspects – mental, physical, emotional and spiritual.

Someone who’s hadrepparttar 130433 foundation on their house settle can tell you their experience of “the battle ofrepparttar 130434 experts,” and, very importantly,repparttar 130435 outcome. In both cases, we want to know - How did this turn out?

There are also people who coach atrepparttar 130436 meta-level. Through education, or life experience, or both, they have knowledge of how to handle transitions, for instance, or career changes. They may not know precisely about accounting, or public relations, but they understandrepparttar 130437 process of choosingrepparttar 130438 right career for you, how to fit an occupation to a person, how to make a successful transition, and how to teach this to someone else.

Coaching started out as “personal life” coaching, or “business” coaching, but nowadays you’ll find some coaches doing very specific work. If you look onrepparttar 130439 Internet, you’ll find a Breast Cancer coach, a Responsible Recovery coach, a Marketing Coach, an Emotional Intelligence coach, an ADHD coach, The Naked Coach, an eBook coach, a Real Estate Coach, a Parenting coach, a Teen coach, and a Dissertation coach, and many more.

You’ll find a whole host of qualifications – from academic degrees, to coaching credentials, to actual life experience. And you will find a vast array of people doing this work. The majority of coaches still live inrepparttar 130440 US, but there are coaches globally, and since many coaches work by phone or email, you can swing a very wide net. Great for confidentiality, too.

WHERE CAN YOU FIND A COACH?

By looking on a search engine, going to www.coachfederation.org, or asking someone you know who’s been coached. Word-of-mouth is always a good way to choose a professional in your life. Or call me (210-496-0678); I know lots of coaches!

WHAT SORT OF THINGS MIGHT YOU BRING TO A COACH?

Being “lost” is one thing – when you’ve just hit a wall, or can’t figure out what you want to do next – or at all. Specific challenges, like adjusting to a new position, child, spouse, or condition. All sorts of life skills, like getting organized, time management, stress management, building resilience, leadership, developing your Emotional Intelligence. Practical things such as cooking, potty training, house decorating, and writing ebooks.

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