How Do You Measure Success?Written by David McGimpsey
Success isn't all that it's cracked up to be... I'm serious! Stop laughing!Well, success is important, very important in fact, depending on how you measure it. I going to give you an example of an imaginary "successful" individual. Let's call him Fred. Fred starts work each day at 6am. Fred works 11 hours per day and travels one hour to get home. He is highly successful in his job and is highest paid and most productive widget salesrep in northern hemisphere. Fred has a wife at home with their two children aged five and seven. Fred doesn't see his children much because he leaves before they are awake and they are almost ready for bed when he gets home. On weekends he is unable to spend much time with his wife or children because he is networking and playing golf with town's largest widget retailers. Fred is extremely successful at his job. As we learned above, there is no widget rep in northern hemisphere that comes close to him. The trouble with Fred is, however, he only measures success in dollars and cents. He doesn't see success as an all-encompassing journey.
| | Go On ! Give your Enemy a HugWritten by Robina Hearle
Go On ! Give your Enemy a hug!Give your enemy a hug! Another preposterous idea from yours truly, even thought makes some people shudder. My husband had been having difficulty with an old mate, whenever he met him there were sneers and snide comments. A feeling of animosity generally pervaded atmosphere between them. So, Jeremy my husband, set about imagining giving this fellow a hug. In his mind he set a scene and in it he frequently gave old mate a hug. The next time he met this mate in flesh, change was amazing! Gone were sneers and snide remarks- problem had been healed. I have tried this myself since then and believe me, it really works! The power of unconditional love is amazing, and it is free. It just takes a small amount of your time. Have a go and see. So, to move on a step further, after you have given your worst enemy a hug, how about giving yourself a hug? Imagine yourself as a small child, allow that small child to climb up onto your knee and hug him or her. Do this at every available opportunity when you have a quiet time. Imagine playing with that child in playground or on beach. See what happens to inner you. You will find that you begin to grow as a person, you move on as your capability to love and like yourself blossoms. Consequently, your ability to love others will also grow. The tough bit about what I have said is – why does your enemy upset you so much? What is it about them that you do not like/resent? The answer is they are mirroring [showing] to you something about yourself that you do not like. They are doing you a service actually [so you should say ‘thank-you’] but it is often very hard to see this. Your own deep integrity and innate honest with yourself has to come into play before you can see [and accept] what that person is showing you. Nobody likes to think ill of themselves, but you don’t have to judge it when you do. None of us are perfect; we all have flaws, dark side as well as light. Everyone, has same fears deep down, we are all same. We all believe we are not good enough: that love equals pain: that world is not a safe place. We all fear that we lack love, abundance, joy and safety.
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