Until you learn to use Law of Attraction in a deliberate way, most of time you are not aware that you are attracting into your life-more of-whatever you are giving your focus, attention, and energy to. This is referred to as non-deliberate attraction. It can be described in a 4-step cycle:

Step 1: I observe what I'm attracting in any area of my life.

Step 2: While observing what I'm attracting, I'm offering a corresponding vibration, whether negative or positive.

Step 3: The Law of Attraction is always checking in to see what my vibration is and matches it obediently, whether wanted or unwanted.

Step 4: As Law of Attraction responds to my vibration, I receive or manifest into my life, more of what I was observing in first place.

Then, cycle begins at Step 1 and repeats itself over and over again. Here's how cycle may be working in your life right now.

Title: Codependent Relationships: Takers and Caretakers Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2005 by Margaret Paul URL: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 704 Category: Relationships

Codependent Relationships: Takers and Caretakers By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Takers and caretakers – they often seem to find each other! As a counselor who has worked with relationships for 37 years, I can tell you that this is most frequent relationship dynamic that I encounter.

Takers are people who tend to be narcissistic – that is, they are self-centered with an excessive need for attention and admiration. The taker attempts to control getting love, attention, approval or sex from others with anger, blame, violence, criticism, irritation, righteousness, neediness, invasive touch, invasive energy, incessant talking and/or emotional drama. The taker uses many forms of both overt and covert control to get attention he or she wants.

Takers not only want a lot of control, but are often afraid of being controlled and become overtly or covertly resistant to doing what someone else wants them to do. The taker might resist with denial, defending, procrastination, rebellion, irresponsibility, indifference, withdrawal, deadness, numbness, rigidity, and/or incompetence.

In a relationship, takers operate from belief that “You are responsible for my feelings of pain and joy. It is your job to make sure that I am okay.”

Caretakers, on other hand, operate from belief that “I am responsible for your feelings. When I do it right, you will be happy and then I will receive approval I need.” Caretakers sacrifice their own needs and wants to take care of needs and wants of others, even when others are capable of doing it themselves. Caretakers give to others from fear rather than love - they give to get.