Question for singles: --------------------- What do you do with your occasional feelings of loneliness, frustration with dating, perhaps frustration with yourself and/or opposite sex? Do these feelings and thoughts run around and around in your head, interfering with your ability to think clearly, causing more frustration? Read below to learn how to get these thoughts and feelings out so you can have a more peaceful, more enjoyable life.
Question for people in relationships: ------------------------------------- What do you do when you are frustrated with your partner, or want to have a serious conversation with him or her? Do you turn words over and over in your head? Do you try to talk to your partner while full of intense feelings and have conversation turn into an argument? Read below to learn how to be clear and calm when you talk to your partner.
Journaling is different than keeping a diary, as you may have done as a child. It is not writing about your activities to create a daily or a weekly record. It is not writing for sake of just writing your thoughts. It is writing that transforms.
Journaling may seem overly simplistic. So much so that many of you -- while reading this article and thinking it's a good idea -- will actually never pick up pen and write, simply because you think it couldn't possibly do any good.
However, when done right, journaling allows you to freely express your feelings and thoughts and gives you a much needed, safe outlet. And believe it or not, when you have an outlet, feelings and circumstances becomes much easier to deal with and solutions emerge where once there were none.
Here is how to have an effective, powerful journaling session:
1. Pick up your journal, which can be a notebook, a sheet of paper, or a journal - anything will work.
2. Set aside a bit of time when you will not be disturbed and where you are granted privacy. I have known people who journal in their car or in bathroom. Be creative.
3. Decide on a topic - how you feel about being single, how you feel today in general, how you feel about a situation in your relationship, what you want to say to a certain someone, etc.
Here are some additional tips to help you choose a topic:
** Describe an issue or a problem in great detail. Then write about where issue comes from, what you think and feel about it, what your life is like because of it and how your life would be different if it were solved.
** Dialogue with yourself to resolve issue. Write down all of your thoughts. Then write down all of your feelings, describing both in great detail.
** Pretend person or people you need to communicate with are in front of you. Write down everything you want to say to them, including your thoughts, feelings, rationale, etc.