Here's Your Calm During The Storm Of Discouragement

Written by Richard Vegas


Have you ever known someone like this? "A person who knows how to start well, but finds it difficult to keep going"? A person whose successes are dependent onrepparttar quality of someone else's encouragement and motivation? Someone who consistently let's discouragement getrepparttar 123528 better of him? Ever found yourself like that? There's hope, read on.

Don't Worry, Be Happy! &^%$%^

Yeah right! How many times have you wished you could bit**-slap somebody for saying that atrepparttar 123529 moment you least needed it? I know I have a bunch. The problem is, most ofrepparttar 123530 time you're in a moment of discouragement when that is said. So, those words come across as being insensitive and cold blooded.

Our first reaction is to lash out atrepparttar 123531 person who said it, to give them a piece of our mind. And, sometimes we even tell them to stay out of our life and mind their own business. Of course, we really don't mean it; we're just reacting torepparttar 123532 discouragement that has pounced upon us.

But, have you ever considered this? The other person doesn't really feel your discouragement. Oh! Really, you say: Yeah, big revelation. Be nice to me now. Seriously, if they did, and especially if it was a loved one, they would never say words that would rattle your cage. But,repparttar 123533 discouragement at hand makes us want to take out our saber and cut off their right ear.

Then what happens is,repparttar 123534 other person, who atrepparttar 123535 moment was probably feeling pretty chipper and happy, suddenly feelsrepparttar 123536 fury of your wrath so they take out their boxing gloves and then we got a full scale war on our hands. It all started because one person felt discouraged and now we got two people pi**ed off worse than a couple of fire breathing dragons.

Makes Your Hair Stand On End!

At a moment when you are really in your groove those words just roll off like water off a duck's back. But, discouragement can changerepparttar 123537 whole face ofrepparttar 123538 situation. It can cause us to even sabotage our own best efforts. It can takerepparttar 123539 best laid plans of mice and men and turn them into mush.

Do not underestimaterepparttar 123540 potential effects of discouragement. It is like a virus; it spreads and can become so contagious that it acts like a permanent personality trait. Make no bones about it; it can make your dream not worthrepparttar 123541 powder to blow it up. Whenrepparttar 123542 roots get that deep, it takes military strength anecdotes to rid it.

A Thief In The Night!

Discouragement has probably caused as many business failures as lack of capital, because it is first to show up. The discouragement shows up long beforerepparttar 123543 money runs out. Thenrepparttar 123544 day by day emotional warfare begins andrepparttar 123545 potential to self-sabotage everything we are trying to accomplish. At that point;repparttar 123546 money runs out!

Atrepparttar 123547 end, we blame it onrepparttar 123548 lack of money, our spouse, our next door neighbor, our cat, or anything that makes us look not at fault and out of our control. After all, if we could have stopped it, we would have. But, what we really did was try to stoprepparttar 123549 effects ofrepparttar 123550 failure before trying to stoprepparttar 123551 discouragement that was fueling it.

Consider this: take a forest fire out of control; it is much easier to cut offrepparttar 123552 fuel than to drown it. Just clear areas outsiderepparttar 123553 fire and it'll burn itself out. Ifrepparttar 123554 fuel line torepparttar 123555 engine is not cut off, then it's pretty safe to bet our efforts to stoprepparttar 123556 failure will not succeed. Succeeding at any task in life is hard enough without allowing discouragement to hamper our efforts. A mind filled with discouragement will never haverepparttar 123557 motivation to keep going.

Three guiding principles of courage (and it’s development)

Written by Tracy Brinkmann


Three guiding principles of courage (and it’s development) By Tracy Brinkmann

I have come underrepparttar personal belief that everyone is a leader to someone. Whether that someone be an employee (or thousands of employees), your spouse, a child or atrepparttar 123527 simplest level, oneself – you are a leader. As a leader you haverepparttar 123528 responsibility to develop a level of courage first within your self, then to instill that level of courage in those that look to you for your leadership. It is key to note here that you must first achieve a level of courage within yourself before you even attempt to instill it in those around you. Why? Wellrepparttar 123529 answer is simple… how on earth can you pass on that which you do not have? You will never be able to encourage others beyondrepparttar 123530 very level of courage that you carry and demonstrate on a regular basis. Your level of courage isrepparttar 123531 only limiting bar. Raise that bar and you raise your ability to encourage others.

The three guiding principles around raising that courageous bar are:

1.Courage = Controlling you fear. Growing up in a military environment taught me one thing that I know is fact - Everyone is afraid of something (often many things). Fromrepparttar 123532 6 foot Army Veteran who has served many months onrepparttar 123533 front lines, torepparttar 123534 CEO of a Fortune 500 company, fear is a fact in each of their lives. But throughout history our true heroes were notrepparttar 123535 men and women that were not afraid, but rather those that faced their fear, acted in spite of it, and moved forward to overcome its choke hold on their lives.

2.Face your fears. Realize that your fear is going to exist and maintain its control on your life, until you face it. Once you face it –YOU will gain control and your fear will falter, thus lessening its grip on your life. However, let us not forget thatrepparttar 123536 opposite is just as true. While moving towards that which you fear weakens that fear, avoiding it and heading away from that very same dread will empower and strengthen it, thus increasing its strangle hold on your life.

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