Help Yourself to a better Future

Written by Terence Watts

Help yourself to a better future!

There are very many methods for achieving improvement to our personal confidence and self esteem, far too many to investigate in depth in a short information file. So on this page, we will have a look atrepparttar most popular and, for most people,repparttar 139795 most effective.

Self Acceptance Motivation & Goal Setting Self hypnosis Coaching/therapy

Self Acceptance

Self acceptance is one ofrepparttar 139796 most important aspects of personal confidence and also for self esteem. The trick is to work out what you can change and set about doing so - and this page has a good few hints how you can go about that - and accept that which you cannot change.

We all have aspects of our personality and 'way of being' that we feel uncomfortable about; maybe we see ourselves as selfish, dim on occasions, over-emotional, under-responsive, or any one of a whole variety of pretty standard human behaviour patterns. The trouble is that when anybody mentions any of those things, our personal confidence is dented and self esteem sags. Yet accept those things as just part of what goes to makerepparttar 139797 whole of you and that overall, you are no worse and no better thanrepparttar 139798 next human being and you can start to enjoy being you and all that being you means.

For example...

A child's school reports consistently commented on his talkativeness:"Billy is very intelligent,"repparttar 139799 teacher would say, "But he's a chatterbox - he never stops talking.". His parents laughed and showed others who also laughed. The child didn't understand why talking was such a bad thing though nonetheless tried to do less of it... but all that happened was that his fascination and enthusiasm for some new discovery would suddenly burst out of him in a torrent of excited chatter. One day, when he was a young adult, somebody said: "My God, do you never stop talking?" That hit hard atrepparttar 139800 sore spot that had been created overrepparttar 139801 years and he suddenly started to stutter.

Then people laughed even more. Social gatherings, parties, dinners, holidays, even family get-togethers all quickly became no-go areas. He became introverted and timid and eventually found himself with a therapist, recounting those early experiences of people laughing because he was a 'chatterbox'. "Tell me again about that teacher,"repparttar 139802 therapist said. "She said I never stopped talking," Billy replied. "That's funny,"repparttar 139803 therapist said. "I though you told me she said you were intelligent." "I don't think I noticed that bit..." Billy said wonderingly.

The Ugly Duckling

From that moment on, it was likerepparttar 139804 Ugly Duckling story all over again. There was an almost instant acceptance that he was a natural talker, a communicator of ideas and concepts. Time passed. Billy talked A LOT and if anybody said anything at all about it, he would simply smile and agree with them. "I've always been talkative," he would say, "Thank goodness. I love to share all my ideas." No comments could hit any target now and there was no longer a sore spot; he knew that his talkativeness was a measure of his intelligence and his entire joy of living.

Acceptance is a wonderful thing. Acceptrepparttar 139805 way you are and embrace it - warts and all - and you will become instantly more comfortable with yourself and others. When you accept those facets of self which you thought were negative, no matter what they are, nobody can push your buttons any more because you won't be trying to hide them. More importantly, perhaps, you will discover that many others actually like those facets of self that you tried so hard to conceal!


One ofrepparttar 139806 prime necessities to achieve good motivation in life or career is to have a clear goal - if you don't have, then it's extremely unlikely that you will achieve much. Yet set a goal and set it well, know exactly why you want it and how your life will improve when you get it and you're almost home and dry!

When setting your goals, it is important that you recogniserepparttar 139807 four rules that apply to any goal, if you are to have any chance of getting what you want:

- The goal must be plausible, possible and realistic - It must be suitable for your personality type - You must have a clear idea of what you are seeking - Positive orientation

Plausible and Realistic

Anything that can be done, you can do. Anything that could never be done, you will not achieve, either. We are not conducting magic but simply using natural resources to achieve natural goals. If you are 65 years old, for instance, you will not become an Olympic standard athlete. It simply is not realistic. If you have only one leg, you cannot attempt to climb Mount Everest for exactlyrepparttar 139808 same reason.

Who are You?

Written by Joyce C. Lock

When standing before our Maker, it'll be just us and Him. So, just incase God asks, "Who are you?" You might want to have prepared your heart to answer.

"So, who are you?"

"My great grandfather wasrepparttar President of our denomination of believers."

"Wow, that sounds quite impressive. But ... who are you?"

"Oh, I am among a family of renown Biblical Scholars."

"Oh, really. Well, you have a good heritage, then! But, WHO are you?"

"Um, I'm a grandson ofrepparttar 139729 guy that won 144,000 people for you, Lord."

"Oh, my stars! I think I know your family! But, who Are you?"

"Me? I studied Christian education, but that's as far as I got."

"That's nice, too. But, you still haven't answered my question. Who are YOU?"

Uh ...

Ok, so, I'm nobody, Lord. I stumbled, lost my way, and really messed things up. I don't have anything special to offer and don't deserve your grace. In fact, I haven't done anything worthy of standing before you, here, today, and I don't know how I'll ever be able to make it right. Only, in spite of all that went wrong, I still love you, Lord.

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