Healing with a Song

Written by Maureen Killoran, MA, DMin


It took a minute to realize what was happening. We were gathered onrepparttar dock, a disparate bunch of travelers waiting forrepparttar 130271 Aran Islands ferry. Islanders returning home, kids off for a lark, German tourists – and us, a small group of Americans on interfaith pilgrimage with their novice leader – me. Milling around, each anxious to see his or her luggage loaded ontorepparttar 130272 boat, we were each our own first priority -- until a flurry of distress cut through our preoccupation. Halfway ontorepparttar 130273 boat was a child, maybe three years old, clinging for dear life torepparttar 130274 gangway as it slid closer and closer torepparttar 130275 edge ofrepparttar 130276 pier. His Gran was right behind, holding white-knuckled torepparttar 130277 rail and straining to keeprepparttar 130278 lad from falling intorepparttar 130279 cold blackness between ferry and pier. The world narrowed torepparttar 130280 grandmother’s desperation,repparttar 130281 mother’s screams, andrepparttar 130282 boatmen’s curses as they fought to subdue a gangplank gone wild. And, inrepparttar 130283 crowd, panic was onrepparttar 130284 edge of being born. In emergencies, I believe that bystanders are best advised to stay put. But this time I wasn’t just a bystander. I was leading 13 pilgrims on a spiritually-focused journey in a foreign land. What does a leader "do" whenrepparttar 130285 appropriate thing is to stand and wait?

Anger and your health

Written by Dr. Tony Fiore


Anger and your health

HOW YOUR OUTLOOK INFLUENCES HEALTH AND ABILITY TO CONTROL ANGER

Jane and Anthony have differing ways of viewingrepparttar world. Jane is a pessimist (the glass is half-empty), while Anthony is an optimist (the glass is half-full).

These outlooks influence how they experience similar situations.

SCENARIO 1: JOB LOSS Jane is devastated, convincing herself that she is all washed up, she can never catch a break, it is useless for to try to be successful, and she is never going to succeed at anything.

Anthony, however, has a healthier inner dialog. He tells himself he may not have been good at that particular job, his skills and company’s needs did not mesh, and being fired was only a temporary setback in his career.

SCENARIO 2: NEW JOBS Offered a new job, Jane,repparttar 130268 pessimist, believes she was able to find a new job only because her industry is now really desperate for people, and must have lowered their standards to hire her.

Anthony, however, feels he landedrepparttar 130269 new job because his talents were finally recognized and he can now be appreciated for what he can do.

IMPLICATIONS As these examples illustrate, optimists tend to interpret their troubles as transient, controllable and specific to situations.

Recent research by Dr. Marvin Seligman confirms this. When good things happen, optimists believerepparttar 130270 causes are permanent, resulting from traits and abilities. Optimists further believe that good events will enhance everything they do.

Pessimists, onrepparttar 130271 other hand, believe their troubles will last forever, will undermine everything they do, and are basically beyond their control. When good things happen to pessimists, they see them as temporary and caused by specific factors that will eventually change and lead to negative outcomes.

BENFITS OF OPTIMISM Optimism creates better resistance to depression when bad events strike, better performance at work, and better physical health.

In fact, one long term study atrepparttar 130272 Mayo clinic in Rochester, MN, found that optimists lived 19% longer than pessimists.

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