Haunted: Burying The Ghosts Of Lost LoveWritten by Toni Coleman
Late at night, as you read quietly, before you fall off to sleep... During a busy afternoon as you run through a crowd, hurrying back to your office or home.... Sitting in a movie theater, a restaurant or waiting for light to turn... A sudden thought or image rises within you. It can come as a small nagging feeling or as a wave of emotion that threatens to overwhelm and drown you in grief of a memory. Either way it's clear; here comes his/her ghost again. For those who are haunted by a past relationship, instinctive response is often to run away from these feelings or to pretend they just aren't there. It is also not uncommon to react by setting your system on "anger mode" and seeing everything and everyone in a negative light. Shutting down all ability to handle even simple routine tasks of daily life is another response, and one that signals depression. This one needs to be addressed quickly, as it can leave a trail of destruction in it's path. These defense mechanisms are employed as a way of coping and to "get through day." However, when these responses become prolonged and ingrained, we can get stuck in grieving process that accompanies loss. This is where ghosts come in. All loss, especially absence of someone with whom we were intimate, results in sadness, anger, denial, fear, depression and guilt. These feelings are normal. However, how we respond to them will make difference in how well we recover and move on to a new and healthy life. In order to work through grief and finally lay those ghosts to rest, you may need some help with important do's and don'ts of grieving. The following is a basic primer to get you started. Things To Do: * Acknowledge Feelings Denial can provide a very short-term way to cope with loss, but will compound bottling up of destructive feelings that need to find a healthy outlet for expression. Allowing yourself to feel, helps you to understand that what you are feeling is normal and therefore, you are not "crazy" or alone. It also opens way to learning how to cope and move towards a positive resolution. Over time you will learn that feelings won't kill you, and that you are strong and able to confront them and move on. * Express Anger Safely and Productively Fear of our own anger is normal. This is why we have so much difficulty expressing it to others. We imbue it with a power that is beyond our control and something that can only be destructive. Therefore, we stuff everything inside. Pressure builds and we explode, and out comes "anger monster"; a creation of our own inability to deal with anger when it is at a lower, more manageable level. There are safe ways to express these feelings. Crying, talking to friends, writing down feelings and even engaging in some physically demanding labor are all healthy ways to release your anger. *Take Care Of Yourself This seems to be one of things we most neglect when loss strikes. Not caring for even basic needs is one of faces of grief. It can also be a sign of a dangerous depression. Therefore, it has to be a priority. Basic needs are what usually require attention. These include: adequate sleep, eating right, taking care of minimal household and financial responsibilities and attention to personal grooming. In addition, exercise not only provides a great outlet for stress, it has been proven in clinical trials to be effective in lessening depression in a significant number of people. Regular exercise can also offer assistance to those who have difficulty sleeping and heightens self-esteem.
| | The End of the World,Written by Dokes, www.dokesnflow.com
http://www.dokesnflow.com For those of you that haven’t noticed end of human civilization is near. What most people don’t understand that cause of this is religion and America’s conquest for world domination. Sure Bush claims that his mission is to destroy every terrorist to secure America’s freedom and way of life. What he is not mentioning is how America’s markets have been in trouble ever since dot.com boom followed by corporate scandals. The government thought if Federal Reserve lowered interest rates again and again market would gain momentum and recover. They were wrong! This is all part of scheme of events that will lead to demise of human beings. Being an American I can not complain about this because I have been enjoying fruits of America’s long going success and freedom of free enterprise my whole life. However all empires will fall eventually. The Romans, Egyptians, and now United States is next. What Bush plans to do is to walk into Iraq bomb shit out of them overthrow Saddam and take over their oil reserves which would pull our market out of recession and then some. Every war has been linked to different country’s religious beliefs. Everybody wants to put out their own explanation of “How Universe was created” which is why people follow religions to make themselves feel a since of peace of their existence. The truth is no one really knows how we got here. This great mystery is what will lead to our extinction. I bet Muhammad (founder of Islam) would be turning in his grave right now if he saw what a few power fanatics have twisted his religion into a fine tuning terrorist machine. The “Axis of Evils” is now forming in Middle East which is growing everyday. The Islam religion has over a billion followers and if Osama’s plan of turning every Muslim against US and it’s supporters we can expect WW3. Once Iraq uses chemical, biological, or nuclear weapons on our troops US said they will use nuclear weapons in retaliation. After this happens Nuclear War will begin. Anyways everything going on right now are events that will lead up to “D-day”. There are few elite wealthy nations around world control everything we see and perceive in media. These leaders from all over world headed by one and only USA will soon form New World Order. The N.W.O will attempt to form their own currency which all nations will have to oblige to in order to survive financially. Markets all over world will shut down around 2010 and 2013 will be “D-Day” when supreme being we know as God will come to earth and wipe everything out accept those who have “faith”. I know this seems very far fetched but it’s my outlook on future of world.
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