HOW TO MAKE YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE

Written by Dr. Wayne Dyer


Dr. Wayne Dyer - HOW TO MAKE YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE - June 2003

Could 2003 be your lucky year -repparttar one in which you fulfill a dream, improve your health, increase prosperity and feel happier? Absolutely, says bestselling author Wayne Dyer, whose latest book is 10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace (Hay House). Dyer believes that positive thinking and a spiritual connection can lead to dramatic improvements in anyone's life.

He also insists that changing your thoughts and attitudes really can lead to making your most impossible dreams come true. All you need is a burning desire and an unwavering vision of what will eventually materialize.

In a talk with Family Circle, Dyer explains how to create a new contract with yourself that will enable you to make of your life everything you want it to be.

Family Circle: How do you make 2003repparttar 128883 year for a personal transformation?

Dyer: First look at any disharmony or scarcity in your life - your finances, struggles, even some health problems - and say: I created this. My life isrepparttar 128884 result ofrepparttar 128885 choices I've made. What we think determines what happens to us, so if we want to change our lives, we need to stretch our minds.

Family Circle: Is that New Age psychobabble or does it really work?

Dyer: It may sound like psychobabble, but in fact, we become what we think about. William James,repparttar 128886 father of psychology, said that if you form a picture in your mind of what you would like to be, and you hold it there long enough, it will become a reality. I've found that has worked for me.

Family Circle: Give an example.

Dyer: When I wrote my first book, Your Erroneous Zones, there was nothing I wouldn't do to make it a success. I called bookstores to create a demand, then deliveredrepparttar 128887 books torepparttar 128888 stores myself! I always say it's never crowded alongrepparttar 128889 extra mile.

Family Circle: But what if your life isn't changing inrepparttar 128890 ways that you want it to?

Dyer: Realize that insanity is repeatingrepparttar 128891 same thoughts and behaviors again and again, and expecting different results. To get a new outcome, you have to rewrite your agreement with reality, which I do regularly.

Family Circle: What do you mean?

Dyer: You have to compose a brand-new agreement with yourself that says: There is nothing that is not possible for me. I can attract abundance into my life. Connect with that thought. Norman Vincent Peale said, "Change your thoughts and you change your world."

Family Circle: So if you want to lose 10 pounds . . .

Dyer: First visualize yourself lookingrepparttar 128892 way you want to and never let that picture out of your head. Envision yourself eating healthful foods and exercising. If you hold those thoughts in your mind, you'll act on them.

Family Circle: So what happens when you focus on allrepparttar 128893 things that you don't have?

Dyer: You stay stuck. Every thought you have either makes you stronger or weaker. Thoughts of kindness, hope, forgiveness, and peace are strengthening. Anger, anxiety, worry, and fear weaken you. You must process events in terms of appreciation rather than depreciation. You either feel thatrepparttar 128894 universe is plentiful and providing, or you feel short-changed, that nothing is ever right. That's what I call a scarcity mentality - expecting that things won't work out for you. I was recently on a plane that was running 30 minutes late. The woman sitting next to me said, "With my luck, I won't make my connection." I answered, "With my luck, I will!" I think she may still be in Dallas. Family Circle: How can you reprogram yourself?

Dyer: Before you go to bed, create an image of what you want for yourself; then act as if you are who you want to be. Catch yourself verbalizing self-defeating thoughts, stop labeling yourself, and take time just to be.

Valuing Love

Written by Dr. Nathaniel Branden


Nathaniel Branden - Valuing Love

I do not know if there has ever been a time in history whenrepparttar word love has been used so promiscuously as it is at present.

We are told constantly that we must "love" everyone. Leaders of movements declare that they "love" followers they have never met. Enthusiasts of personal-growth workshops and encounter-group weekends emerge from such experiences announcing that they "love" all people everywhere.

Just as a currency, inrepparttar 128881 process of becoming more and more inflated, has less and less purchasing power, so words, through an analogous process of inflation, through being used less and less discriminately, are progressively emptied of meaning.

It is possible to feel benevolence and goodwill toward human beings one does not know or does not know very well. It is not possible to feel love. Aristotle made this observation twenty-five hundred years ago, and we still need to remember it. In forgetting it, all we accomplish isrepparttar 128882 destruction ofrepparttar 128883 concept of love.

Love by its very nature entails a process of selection, of discrimination. Love is our response to what represents our highest values. Love is a response to distinctive characteristics possessed by some beings but not by all. Otherwise, what would berepparttar 128884 tribute of love?

If love between adults does not imply admiration, if it does not imply an appreciation of traits and qualities thatrepparttar 128885 recipient of love possesses, what meaning or significance would love have and why would anyone consider it desirable?

In his book "The Art of Loving," Erich Fromm wrote: "In essence, all human beings are identical. We are all part of One; we are One. This being so, it should not make any difference whom we love."

Really? If we were to ask our lovers why they care for us, consider what our reaction would be if told, "Why shouldn't I love you? All human beings are identical. Therefore, it doesn't make any difference whom I love. So it might as well be you." Not very inspiring, is it?

So I findrepparttar 128886 advocacy of "universal love" puzzling -- if one takes words literally. Not everyone condemns sexual promiscuity, but I have never heard of anyone who hails it as an outstanding virtue. But spiritual promiscuity? Is that an outstanding virtue? Why? Isrepparttar 128887 spirit so much less important thanrepparttar 128888 body?

In commenting on this paradox, Ayn Rand wrote in "Atlas Shrugged": "A morality that professesrepparttar 128889 belief thatrepparttar 128890 values ofrepparttar 128891 spirit are more precious than matter, a morality that teaches you to scorn a whore who gives her body indiscriminately to all men --repparttar 128892 same morality demands that you surrender your soul in promiscuous love for all comers."

My own impression is that people who talk of "loving" everyone are, in fact, expressing a wish or a plea that everyone love them. But to take love -- above all, love between adults -- seriously, to treatrepparttar 128893 concept with respect and distinguish it from generalized benevolence or goodwill, is to appreciate that it is a unique experience possible between some people but not between all.

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