HOW TO ACHIEVE TRUE HAPPINESS:Written by OSORO P. J. NYAWANGAH
(Personís life is full of wealth; gold and all types of minerals are found in MAN. Unless you dig for them, you cannot possess true happiness.)
ď Happy are pure in heart; they will see GodĒ So goes gospel (Mathew 5:8). Have you ever stopped to think of who decides on your happiness life in world? Is happiness God made or chance? Can a person create his happiness life? You and you alone are in control of your life direction you can drive your self to true happiness or to rags! But in order to be happy, one needs to concentrate on happy thoughts. People always ignore compliments paid to them by others, yet dwelling on unkind words for weeks. They tend to remember compliments for only few minutes or so, but do not forget insult for years. By so doing, you become garbage collector who carries around trash thrown long years ago. You will have to suffer consequences if you ever allow your mind to be occupied by bad experience.
Remember, you being in control of your own mind (heart), you should make happiness and joy center of your world. These are always within you; all you have to do is to be sure you are connected with this place inside you. Then build your life around joy. When you are triumphant, you can be creative because you become open to new Ideas.
For those who were thinking that they could not create their happiness and had given up stresses, I console them and tell them that all is not lost; they still have time to have renovate happiness and be successful if they comply with following gateways.
*RELAXATION: This is very important for joy and peak performance. As you relax, your metabolism comes into balance. You say yes for defeat and start afresh, and by so doing you become laid back and happy. *CRITICISM: This is a useless act, accomplishes not any positive results. Do not do it to yourself or others. Thinking negatively about your self-challenger or other people is greatest cause of limitations in our lives. Never moan, groan and grouch to any one who will only listen, but do to a person who can do something. Complaining to irrelevant person will only add to your stress.
PEOPLE DO NOT LIKE YOU?Written by OSORO P. J. NYAWANGAH
(Cultural technique to influence people)
-To get people like you is a matter of character! Follow me and get changed -
NEVER miss an opportunity to say a word of congratulations upon anyoneís achievement or express sympathy for sorrow and disappointment. This is one of few simple techniques, which you can use to attain popularity. In real sense, we all might admit that as people, we want others to like us. Though we might have heard some one say, ď I donít care whether people like me or not, I donít care whether people like me or not, I donít care what they say about me1Ē But whenever you hear anyone say this and like, rest assured that person is not telling truth.
Remember that your task in life is not necessarily to get everyone to like you. But as a human being, you are definitely going to meet different people of different walk of life through out your life in this world. You cannot live without them and their help. Thus it makes sense to know how to talk to other easily. Anyway, however popular you may be, you will never get everybody to like you, and People always feel that you are a bit like them if you have things in common they will be free and happy talking and appreciating your company.
Here are other points:
*REMEMBER NAMES: Addressing or greeting a person by his/her name is very important to person. So inefficiency at remembering other peopleís names may indicate that you are not interested in them and their affairs; so learn to remember names. *HONESTY COUNT: when you are not cheating other, you are straightforward and full honest; people will trust and appreciate you. This is a sign high respect to them also. If you donít have something or donít know something be honest of it. Be able to abide with challenge. *COMFORT ABILITY: A flexible and comfortable person is natural and easy-going. He/she has always kind, pleasant and sympathetic way about him or her. And these characters cannot be found in stern, stiff and reserved person who will never mix groups. People never know how to treat such person and his or her reaction.